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To Postpone or not?!

Natasha, 24 October, 2023 at 10:15 Posted on Planning 0 2

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Basically trying to decide if we should postpone our wedding by a year or not.
We got engaged last December (2022) and in June we booked our wedding for December 2025 ( so 3 years from engagement and now 2 years to go). We made this decision so that we would have time to save and also we wanted to try for a baby.
We feel so lucky that we are now pregnant and everything is going well with baby. However there are already complications with my health which we have been warned will get worse. As a result I'm unable to work even now from 16 weeks. I am self employed so get no sick pay. Although we'd accounted for maternity leave and no pay this extra time off will really hit our ability to save.So we've spoken to our venue and they can postpone for an admin fee of £500 and the venue price will increase from 2025 to 2026. To counteract this we're considering changing from a Saturday to Monday wedding. We haven't spoken to any other booked suppliers (photographer, videographer, celebrant and florist) yet to see about fees/price changes.Although the wedding may work out about the same price we will have more time to save if we postpone but it's such a horrible decision to make! I know it's only a year and so many people went through this with covid but to go back from 2 years to 3 again seems so hard. Although my fiance has said that it will be lovely that our little one will then be nearly 3 (rather than nearly 2) and much more able to walk down the aisle. He says he's been daydreaming about her running down the aisle to him and swinging her up in his arms before watching me walk down 💕I think deep down we probably know which decision we should make but would really love any advice or opinions from anyone that's been through similar particularly around contacting suppliers (I just feel so awkward and a bit embarrassed at having to change the date).

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Latest activity by SL WaltonJones, 24 October, 2023 at 12:05

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RomanticGreenStationery27135 · 24 October, 2023 at 11:10
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Don't feel awkward or embarrassed - any professional will be used to having people needing to change or postpone, and because your wedding is so far away, they will all have plenty of time to refill the gap anyway if you decide to postpone.
I would suggest contacting all your suppliers now to ask about costs involved with postponing. I would also suggest seeing if there is any way you can simplify your wedding plans or anything unnecessary that you can cut out to reduce costs. For example, could you reduce the quantity or type of flowers - some florists offer a 'florist's choice' which will be the colours you want but made up from whichever flowers are cheapest on the day. Do you need a videographer as well as a photographer? Can you offer guests a simpler meal? etc
Obviously, depending on what you already have booked and the cost of changing, it may be cheaper to go with your current plans than to simplify. But it's well worth considering. And don't be afraid to cut anything out that you don't really want. If you're not fussed about having favours or a wedding car or menu cards or bridesmaids, then don't have them!
My gut feeling? If you are able to have the wedding in 2025 without going into debt (maybe by moving to a weekday?) then I would go for it. I'm not a huge fan of postponing anything because you never know what the future holds. Also, if you have prospective guests who are elderly or in poor health is that the longer you delay, the less chance there is of them being able to attend. (We delayed our wedding from February to June 2020 so that one of my overseas friends could attend - of course, Covid meant we had to postpone, by the time we were able to have our scaled back wedding none of our overseas or long-distance UK guests could attend, and meanwhile, my father-in-law had died, so with hindsight, we wish we'd stuck to February and just missed one person instead of 10) You also mention your own health being likely to get worse - I'm not sure if that is purely pregnancy-related and you are expecting to recover after the birth, but if your health condition is long-term, then you might find your wedding more enjoyable/manageable in 2025 than 2026.
Best wishes with the decision making process - I hope you are able to find a solution that works for you.
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SL WaltonJones · 24 October, 2023 at 12:05
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Congratulations so many exciting things happening for you! Personally I wouldn't postpone but maybe scale it back closer to the time when you have a better idea about finances.
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