Too early to ask moh ?

I think I asked my 3 friends to be involved within about a week! We got engaged in November '19 and, once the immediate family knew, I rang my 3 friends and asked them. I always knew I wanted them involved, so I wasn't troubled by worries around if I'd change my mind etc.

We are sending our save the dates soon (once I get round to sorting them out), so we're doing them a year early. Some people would say to wait a bit cos you want to be sure about who you send them to. It depends who you definitely want there, and who you only might want. I'd probably send them to those you definitely want, and hang on for those you aren't sure about. That's how I'm thinking of doing it anyway.

I asked mine soon as we booked the date and we don't get married until July 2024! but i always knew who my bridesmaids would be and how i wanted to ask them i made them all proposal boxes and just couldn't wait to give them to them. I havent sent save the dates yet as i wasnt sure how early to do it either.

It’s up to you! I think it ultimately depends on how many people you’re inviting, how close you are and also where you work!


Personally, we are save the dates to our nearest and dearest first (not providing location) and will extend this out with about a year to go. A lot can change in a period of time that’s why we’re not informing of location so worse case scenario if you’re no longer speaking or that close in 2 years hopefully they’d just get the message and still don’t know where to turn up!

We get married in April 2024 and will be sending save the dates in November 2022. As others have said, this may be 'early' but we agreed that we don't want to risk people booking holidays / not being able to make it. Our save the dates will only be sent to our family and best / long term friends. We have a 'potential' pile of people we plan on inviting to the day, but I think there could be a risk of us drifting with them / not wanting to invite them this time next year so we are holding off for the 'potentials' for now. I plan on then sending the official invites and evening invites October 2023 (6 months before the wedding).

With regards to asking your MOH and bridesmaids, if you know these are definitely going to remain in your life then it's never too early! It makes them share your excitement, and they have a role in supporting you too i.e dress shopping, hen planning etc... I'm yet to ask mine, as I want it to feel natural when I next see them, and the time just hasn't come yet (although I'm fully ready with a little 'proposal')