Top Hat 'n' Tails for weddings - A touch 80's??

If he owns them already, yes, why not? if it means hiring, then no.

Posted too soon. if its a very formal affair, then great. if very relaxed, he ll look a twat

My uncle did this at a cousin's wedding once. The bridal party weren't in morning dress, he looked like a total tool.

Mr JK's uncle wore his to our wedding five years ago, and though he was alone in this, I thought he looked fab, and no-one thought he looked out of place.

If he's the groom, then his day his way blah blah. If not, and the groom is not wearing a top hat and tails, he'll look a twat. If the groom/BM/ushers/fotb are, then fine. I don't think it's 80s at all, but that doesn't mean it's universally appropriate.

Mine looked like The Fat Controller.

I think it looks lovely- if it's a smart wedding, then why not. Naturally, if it's a 'barefoot on the beach' type affair then it's a little de trop. ? when you say 80s, do you mean 1880s? ?

I think it only suits if the men are tall as well.

At most of the weddings we go to most men wear morning suits- the weddings tend to be formal church + marquee.

Do you mean, should your H wear one as a guest or should you have it as the dress code at your wedding? If the former, I'd ask if you're not sure- I wouldn't personally want to be the only one in a morning suit (or worse, be in one if only the groom and BM were), unless it's obviously a relaxed affair in which case lounge suit is better. If the latter, I wouldn't impose a dress code that your friends will have to shell out to follow. If you just mean that he wants to wear one himself (as groom), why not, unless it's otherwise a very informal do? Do get him to wear a tie rather than some awful cravat though- it's not A Christmas Carol.

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thats the problem with short, fat men wearing them.

At our wedding H and all his lot and our dads wore tails but no top hat (H moaned enough about the suit!) None of our guests wore tails though - I think it would have been overly formal for our wedding even though it was fairly formal.

Of course I told him so - curse my post baby light weightedness. ?

Only the bridal party wore morning suits & top hats (well, they carried them). I refused to let them have the canes, as I could see them sword fighting with them. As for the guests, no didn't see anyone else in formal morning suits. My parents have been invited to one wedding, where everyone has to wear top hat & tails.

J wore top hat & tails to our wedding.

The deal was he didn't know what I would be wearing, and I didn't know what he would be wearing.

I like to think he kind of pulled it off... the purple trainers might have helped

I think it's really unfair of people to impose such strict dress codes on their guests. I mean, by no means everyone owns a morning suit and hiring one is not cheap - I'd be tempted to tell them they were getting a dress code instead of a gift.

We recently went to a wedding and one of our friends (a guest) wore his. I think it was totally inappropriate on that occasion because he knew that the groom, best man and ushers were just wearing their own lounge suits. It was an informal wedding, albeit in a church, and it just seemed wrong. I was very surprised that he did.

Lovely photos - looks like you had an absolute blast ?

Doing it his own way! I think that's quite cool ?

Each to their own, don't think they're 80s.

My H is a best man this summer and has been forced asked to wear a morning suit (no top hat - shame as it would be hilarious) but the jackets don't have tails, which I think does look a bit strange, sort of half-arsed IYSWIM. But this could be because the groom is very short so his tails might be trailing on the floor.

J certainly did ?

He looked fab allero!

Did he strip off at the reception??

Partially ?

there was a log sawing thing sprung on us, he didn't want to get bits on his shirt

Well, it's our wedding anniversary today, and the men in our bridal party wore top hat and tails - that was in 1993, so a touch 90's maybe? ?

Personally, we didn't have tails, let alone top hats at our wedding. it was quite formal in that it was a church do and I had a full on dress but neither of us like the look of tails - I just think for your bog standard, middle class couple (just about middle class at that!) it looks a bit odd. fair enough if it's a big full on posh do where you're the sort to have tails in your wardrobe anyway. but I think the hire suits from suits you etc just look badly made and a bit rubbish, tbh (certainly the ones MrB's had to wear as an usher have been really poor quality)

Instead MrB bought a decent quality lounge suit. he was happier in that, being relatively short - he said he'd look like a bouncer in something more formal - and the best man bought the same. everyone else in the bridal party we just asked to wear a dark lounge suit they already had.

It was fine for us - each to their own and all that though.

My friend had top and tails for her wedding, though we didn't see much of the top hats as you can't wear them in church.

A bit twee for me and OH wouldn't suit it. He'll be in his kilt instead along with the BM and the dad's, and any guests who want to. But then the wedding is in Scotland.

J

Two of my sisters got married in the 80s, and they both had morning suits and top hats for the men. I seem to remember seeing them a lot in the wedding magazines of the time that my sisters had. So in my mind it is a bit 80s really.

I much prefer kilts, personally. They don't date at all.

I think it comes across as a bit try-hard unless it's the norm in your family/social circle. Nothing worse than seeing a load of men looking uncomfortable in obviously hired morning suits.

We went to a wedding where the groom was in ill-fitting hired morning dress. He looked like the Penguin.

Mrs JMP, why the question? what do you reckon?

btw the 80s are back ?

I don't see why it's 80's?

For the right setting it looks smart - for the wedding party - not for guests. I think it's wrong if people require guests to wear tails.

Sorry for the long delay in res[ponding - small child with measles to entertain.

Anyway - we have an invite to a friend of a friend's wedding - dress code T'n'T .

It's in a Registry Office.

Don't get me wrong - right location & event I think it's very classic - but think at certain weddings, think it's a bit out dated, bit like the austrian blind style bridesmaid dresses in Apricot or floral you used to get.

MrJMP has a really lovely Black Morning Dress with , but we both agree, not for the occasion.

If there's a dress code, I would simply follow that. Morning suits wouldn't be my choice for a registry office wedding but ours not to reason why, especially if your husband already has one.

All this talk of "top hat and tails", canes etc makes me think of white tie, like this ?