Top table planning?

As with everything, you really can do whatever you like and do go against tradition if it works for you!

FH's parents aren't together, and we originally were going to use the best man as a "buffer" to sit between them, but FMIL kicked off at that idea and didn't want everyone thinking they weren't civil... so we are now actually seating them in the traditional way!

We have the best man and MOH on our top table as well, but the rest of the wedding party is spread out so there's at least one member of the wedding party on every table - which I think is nice. If you moved your wedding party to the top table, you could have each table having a different family member or something like that

Your Wedding, Your Rules! We had similar concerns as my dad has passed away, in laws are separated and we didn't want the awkwardness so went with having our Best Man, MoH and their daughter on the table with us our daughter and our usher. We then put the family groups together on tables and split the in laws on different tables. you could have each of the parents hosting a table with their respective families and as you suggest your top table with bridal party, or you could just have a sweetheart table for the 2 of you, it really is up to you and you know the guests best so allocate seating to avoid awkwardness and make people feel comfortable. We had 2 rows of tables so we just made sure the parents were on the first row so they were closer to us

View quoted message Thank you for response. Funny enough I've fully planned tables already lol- I'm sure things may change by then. And I was really happy with having maid of honour and best man at our table. I talked to my mum about it and said said "oh thats not the traditional way blah blach" with good intentions. She did say it's up to me etc. The problem is she and her husband (my step dad) have 5 kids in the household. It would become a very busy table ha!


I'm happy to stick to what I thought was best. The only thing that is tricky is my dad. He is single with my little brother, and won't be too close to many others there. I did wonder wether to bring him to me but then I can see that offending my mum! Or maybe I'm overthibking. Oh the joys x

Anything goes - most venues do smaller tables ‘sweetheart tables’ for just two of you, which I think are perfect. And gives you that time as a married couple to sit back, enjoy seeing everybody and having a moment to yourselves as Mr and Mrs!

Do whatever you want, it’s your day!
We’ll be having my fiance’s parents, my mum, and her partner - this has weighed on my mind a lot as my dad will he at the wedding but he hasn’t been around for most of my life so it didn’t feel right to have him up there with me - but it’s my day and I’m learning to just do what feels right for me and not second guess it. Do whatever makes you happy. 🥰