Tradition: Brides being married in their hometown.

I think it depends what you want and what's practical. First time round I got married near my parents' house - I'd only moved out 3yrs before the wedding so it was sort of still my hometown, and since I wanted to get ready at their house, it made sense. This time we're marrying abroad. Reception was going to be near(ish) my parents' house (well, 30mins away) but if we change it all as we are thinking, it will be 5 mins from our house instead, and SO much easier. A guest can give us a lift home, so no need to worry about accommodation either!

Not getting married where I was born but near city I grew up. Left "hometown" when was 8 months! So don't really consider that to be my home- town if you get what I mean! :-)

I was born in the east midlands and we nearly did book the wedding there. However we decided to book it in the town where both D and I grew up instead.

We are getting married in neither of our hometowns technically! Its a bit of a drive for us and our guests but was the perfect venue for us.

Hiya,

we're getting married in a small church which is over an hour away from where we live now but it was were my nana and mum where married and my brothers and i were all christened there so it means a lot to me to be married there and my other half was very understanding about it although i was nervous when we told his parents as they are home birds but they where fine with it *phew*

as i still have a lot of family 'up north' (well lancashire...lol) we are having a bit of a brunch after the wedding for all the family up there which will be quite informal then coming back down to cheshire with the the nearest and dearest to have the wedding breakfast with us and then for friends etc who live near us now to join us in the evening... bit of a marathon of a day but my pops is organising (and paying for!! lucky us) the transport...god knows what he will come up with cause i have said i want it to be a suprise...eek

i think that you should get married somewhere that you love despite what others think/want but i understand it can be hard when you want people to be as happy as you!

good luck

It's only a "tradition" because people didn't used to be so mobile, and married younger, so it was usual that the bride hadn't left her parents' home. Things are much more flexible now.

My parents would have loved it if we had got married in my hometown, and tbh I would have been pretty happy with it too, but OH has no connection to the place, and it's bloody miles from where everyone lives (except my parents, obviously). The same applied to his hometown, though it's less far away, and we didn't want to marry in London, where we currently live. That left us with our two university towns, as they're both not too far away, and as we met at uni and spent quite a lot of our time together at one or the other, we felt they were the ideal option. And his happened to be available first, so we went there. After a tiny bit of initial disappointment, my parents came round to the idea and were massively supportive.

I don't have a home town as such as I've moved around a lot but I do happen to be getting married in the same town I went to school and down the A30 from where I used to live. This is just coincidence really as I couldn't find a venue I liked anywhere else.

Im getting married in my home town as me and other half grew up there! we moved south a year ago for my job but we both think of our lil town as home and both our friends and family are there! plus we both want to go back when we have kids! ive always wanted to get married in our venue which is overlooking our town.

I am getting married in my hometown South Yorkshire. The church is 5 minutes from where I live but the reception is approx 10 mile away. OH is from Manchester though but it doesn't seem to bother him one bit hes not marrying in his home town.

Just wanted to add its your choice where you choose to get married not everbody elses. I know its hard but I would put my foot down early on because before long people will have a say in all the wedding planning.

I am getting married where i lives for 23 years of my life its 170 miles from where we live but all my family are down there alot of my friends and h2b dad lives bout 30 miles from there too so there is alot of people that end so made sense i had my heart set on a venue too

I'm from the North and OH is from the South, so we're getting married in the middle to avoid family rows about who has to travel the furthest

I was born in Kent and my parents still live there. I currently live in the house that OH own in the town that he was born in. We are getting married in our parish church and having our reception about 25 minutes drive away. We love our church and where we live now, but I did look into going 'home' to get married. I am glad we are staying local though. X

We're getting married in my hometown although I left it a decade ago and haven't lived there since. I really wanted a London wedding but OH wasn't keen, he's quite traditional and thought we should go to my home even though it's 300 miles from where his parents live! I think my Mum is secretly really pleased inside, she always assumed I would choose the London option. I wasn't really feeling it at first but I have definitely come round to the idea and it feels like the perfect place to start married life. Most of my friends have moved away from that tradition though and I've really enjoyed the weddings I've been to where the venue means a lot to the couple as opposed to just the bride. It's really about works for you like so much of this wedding lark!

I am getting married in the parish where I grew up. This is because it is what I/we want and not due to tradition. I don't think this is a tradition that needs to be honoured, and I don't think anyone in my family would have minded if we had chosen to get married either where we live now, where OH is from or somewhere totally different.

You need to do what you and your OH want. Your wedding, your way.

I am, it was really important to me. We're having a very untraditional wedding in every other way (except the church) so I wanted to keep something special

I am too and it's v important to me however I think it's all about your own personal connections to places and I think this is a tradition which is less important now than historically. I think it's more important that you are happy rather than sticking to a tradition.

Thanks everyone. Its nice to know that others have had similar dilemmas, and I guess the important thing to remember is that it is our day and everyone has different ideas about 'the ideal wedding'. I guess i'm just going to have to talk through it with my parents and explain why we would prefer to do it this way. At the end of the day we've lived together for 3 years, its slightly different to how things were traditionally done.

We're getting married in OUR hometown! I'm from the states and my OH is from Ireland. We decided we wanted to have it here where we are making a life together. My dad was miffed that we weren't getting married at home - he basically said they would have paid for alot more if we had - but I knew if we did, it would be my family's wedding and would really include my OH's family and friends as they would find it hard to travel such a distance - and my hometown is not the kind of place you go on holiday! Sort of the same for why we didn't plan it in Ireland - we decided we wanted our wedding to be about us and both of our families. I knew mine would happily travel over and it's a short trip for his family so the best all around.

I'm SO happy we did - it's so much easier to plan and organise and I'm excited for everyone to see our little piece of the world here in England. We love it and know they will too.

I'm not getting married in my hometown. It's where my Gran lives in Mid Wales and has done for roughly 40 years so I guess it was kind of my Mum's second home town? My family is from Kent and OH's family is from North Wales so they would have had an epic 7 hour journey. It's a compromise (he gets married in Wales, I get married where my parents did) and it means the only mobile grandparent between us does no travelling whatsoever. We are having a small blessing in my other grandmother's church in the Midlands as she is wheelchair bound and can't make it to Wales. I did initially want to be close to her but my Dad said it would be too tiring for her to last the whole day so I came up with the blessing instead. So I guess I chose to suit my family rather than tradition but having them there is the most important thing to me.

I am getting married in my home town and it is also the church I was christened in. It has meant a lot to me that I get married in that church and my OH understands that. Although he is linked to a different church the vicar he grew up with is no longer with us and so he said he didn't mind going to my parish instead.

I am getting married in my hometown. I always dreamed of getting married in the church where I was christened as it is so pretty.

I now live 250 miles from there and my parents have also moved so there isn't that connection any more but I couldn't imagine getting married anywhere else.

My OH was happy to go along with it as he knew how much it meant to me. The only problem is everyone has to travel apart from a couple of my school friends who never moved.

I left my hometown just over 2 years ago and I'm not getting married there. I am marrying in the town I currently live. I think it's more practical as I didn't want myself and my OH driving across the country everytime we needed to visit the venue and local suppliers. Also, a lot of my closest friends are in my current town, so it's really just my family and a few others having to travel. I think it's all down to personal choice and what feels right. If I wanted to get married in a church, then I think I would choose my hometown so I could marry in the place I was baptised. We're having a civil ceremony, so we were lucky enough to find the perfect venue locally.

Yeah... no. I'm getting married 3500 miles from my hometown. I'm getting married 18 miles from where I currently live, and my family is just having to travel!

We are but neither of us ahve ever lived anywhere different, both born and bred in the place in the littel village we are getting amrried in and i doubt we will ever leave because of our circmstances (partners job)

i dont think you have to get married where you grew up, My brother and his wife got married at Heaton House Farm which is over an hour away from where she grew up (and an the same for us but in a different direction) it's where you feel comfortbale / like and it's your big day