Trying for a baby before wedding

I feel like I’m having this dilemma a bit too. I’m 34 and my partner is 37 and neither of us have kids. We get married next October and were always going to wait until after the honeymoon to start trying so we could go somewhere exotic but then I’d be going on for 36 before we even start trying. I’m a midwife so my biological clock is loud and ringing! I’m so conscious of having never tried for a baby, what if we struggle to conceive, need IVF, etc then we might not be pregnant until I’m 38 at least.


So now I’m considering trying in the months leading up to the wedding and being in the early pregnancy stages pre 16-weeks ideally at the wedding and scrapping the exotic honeymoon.
Have you found your dress yet? You don’t want to stress and put pressure on yourself to lose your baby weight to fit in to it if you do have a baby before you get married. I would say if you want to have a baby before the wedding, you’ll need at least 3 months recovery and time from birth to wedding as you never know how your birth will go.
If you get pregnant for the wedding then wed2b do dresses you can just buy on the day off the rack so you’ll be able to find the one for you as close to your wedding as possible so you can see what suits your bump.
Good luck whatever you choose to do or whatever happens!

Don’t wait! If you’re engaged to be married you know it’s for life, regardless of if you’ve put the rings on yet. There’s some super beautiful maternity wedding dresses (Google Peyton wedding one tree hill) and you could spend they day glowing! Your wedding is to share your love with your nearest and dearest, your future is included with that. A few people I know left it too late and you can’t go back. If you definitely want kids then start giving it a go! It might take longer than you think anyway. Good luck!

Any chance you could bring the wedding forward? Every woman reacts differently to pregnancy, so you have no idea how you will be feeling in the early stages - or in the early stages of motherhood either. So planning a major event like a wedding to coincide is a bit risky.

This is me. I am 36 my partner is 25 we want a baby

Hi Jemma,
Take it from someone who has been on a 8 year fertility journey don't put off trying for a baby.
I am planning my wedding for next August and awaiting funding from the NHS for more treatment and I have only just turned 34.I am also wanting a lovely fitted dress but if I am pregnant It will truly be the happiest day of my life. Best of luck

Hi Jemma


I'm also 37 and currently 6 months pregnant, I get married in Feb 2023 and found out I was expecting the day after my dress alterations appointment 🙃 😅 I've got another appointment in January to see if the seamstress can work her magic otherwise I might have to quickly think of a plan B, dress wise! I was a little anxious and upset a first

Oops sent too early! I was a little anxious and upset about my dress at first but I'm over the moon at being pregnant after a lot of difficulties so just embracing it ♡ all the best xx

We’re in a similar situation to a lot of the posts on here. We plan to go with the flow and see what happens - we’ve made sure that we can amend our wedding date if we need to and there’s always a way around most things. The last thing any of us needs though is more stress so my advice would be to go with what you’re comfortable with and what makes you happy. Best of luck x