Un Ask Groomsmem

Were you paying for suits, if so you could say that you are needing to cut back and are not having groomsmen. Or so many groomsmen.

Bill's suggestion of blaming cost is a good one as long as they don't offer to pay for the suit cost themselves!

Disinviting someone from the wedding party can be friendship-ending, so your fiance needs to be sure he's happy to do without these friendships if he does disinvite them. But by the time someone has got to the stage of not wanting a friend in their wedding party any more, the friendship is usually over anyway. So you could just be blunt and tell them that since the relationship has changed so much, you no longer feel it is appropriate to have them in the wedding party.

It does need to be your OHs decision though - so sadly, if he doesn't want to raise it with them, you might just have to put up with it!

Hey that sounds absolutely awful I'm sorry this has happened to you and your partner


I'd just be honest with them and message explaining that you don't want them to be apart of your special day if they're going to ignore you.
End of the day real friends don't ignore or make a friend feel left out and you're well within your rights to tell them where to go!
Sending you lots of positive vibes and virtual hugs