Hey everyone
I have been asked to be best man of a friend's wedding that is happening in 2 weeks. I've known the guy about 5 years and we used to go out on the weekends etc. I wouldn't say we are the best of friends but we've had great times together and it's nice to be asked to a part of their day. I mention this just for context that we are not joined at the hip so don't expect him to move mountains for me but feel they've completely overlooked me...
I'm a little unsure about a few things and wanted some advice on what others thought...
Firstly, I have been asked to pay for my own suit due to their budget. They have given me a colour however I will be going for a different shade to what they've suggested as I want to pick something I will want to wear again.
Secondly, my partner hasn't been invited to the day, just the evening. We have been seeing each other for about a year. Officially it's been about 3 months but we were pretty much together before, just slow in making it official lol. The bride and groom have both met her once... I just feel as the best man I should be getting a plus one. I haven't made an issue to avoid conflict but it's just not sitting right with me. Another friend is bringing his partner to the day, however they have been together many years and live over 6 hours away so I do understand that maybe his partner wouldn't come on their own due to distance but then I think she could either do something else during the day or not come? Sounds harsh writing it but I feel I've been completely overlooked and not sure if I am being over dramatic about it all...?!
I do know a few others going during the day, not that I am really close to them but we all know each other from working together years back and been on nights out since.
What does everyone think? If they were on a budget previously, do you think they would even be able to change due to wedding happening in 2 weeks?
Also to add- I planned the stag do and made sure between 4 of us we covered the groom's accommodation, flights, and all activities...