My H2B is having a surprise stag do in July 2015. He's got a few close friends, but it's not going to be a huge, drunken 'typical' stag do and will involve a small group of his old school friends (at least that's what the best man has led me to believe..!) I've got quite a large extended family - unlike him - and while I'm inviting some of his female relations to my hen party, he's not especially close to the males in mine so won't be inviting any.
I have no problem with that - it's up to him who he asks - however, the husbands of 2 of my cousins think that they're getting an invite; despite both being recently married into my family themselves and not inviting my H2B! (They've known him 4+ years) They also keep making wisecracks to me about strippers, etc and while it (genuinely!) doesn't bother me if he wants to go to a strip club. I don't want them to invite themselves, railroad and try to take over. I wonder if they think they're automatically invited as they're now 'family' or if they're just trying to wind me up by talking about strippers.
We're seeing them over the Christmas hols and I'd really appreciate some advice about how to handle the situation. I'm trying to laugh it off as a joke and have said it's not my decision about who goes on the stag do, so now they've started to message my H2B about dates, strip clubs, etc! He's just ignoring their messages (typical man) so I know I'm going to have to be the one to deal with the situation before it gets out of hand!!
In some respects, I'd like them to go as a way of integrating H2B more in the family, but I know he's not keen....! Any advice on how to handle this without offending anyone would be appreciated - Thanks lots! x
