Unwilling, Unhelpful bridesmaids

Hi Kayleigh,

This question comes up pretty often, with the general conclusion being along the lines that:

1) Brides and Bridesmaids have really different understanding of what is required of them. E,g: Mine are expected to look pretty on the day. That is it.

2) No one else really cares quite as much about your wedding as you do! They are not being unkind, but they really are just not going to get into it like you will.

3) Sometimes even your BFF's have stuff going on in their lives that they may not tell you about or that they are prioritizing.

It maybe sounds a bit harsh when I read this back, but honestly this is about the size of it, so do try not to be too hard on them, you don't want to fall out over a wedding. Youve got ages before the wedding, you cant start arguing this early!

:-)

Thank you, that has help me put some things into perspective :-)

Maybe they don't wanna hear about it?

my bestfriend asked me to change the record a few weeks ago. In a funny way and I laughed my head off.

You have 15 months. Wait till nearer the time and get them on board?

:-)

Currently I don't think mine are even organising any surprises for my hen do! I am very difficult to suprise as I am as cunning as a badger and always suss things out, so either they have upped their cunningness or there just are no surprises and actually I think it is the latter!

I also keep having a repeat convo with one BM like this:

"What do you want t do with our hair?"

"Well I was thinking something up and quite soft and pretty and I have bought you all nice hair combs - (show picture of style I had in mind)"

"I have cut my hair even shorter!" (She lives a verrrry long way away I do not see her often)

"I bet it looks great!"

"I am not sure it will go up"

"well that is OK, if you want to buy some fake hair you go for it, you just choose it as you live 400 miles away, otherwise just have it down and with the comb?"

"We won't alll match"

"yes I appreciate that, but given that the other two have elbow length hair...."

etc etc, on repeat.

We've had this exact convo about 4 times this year so far, wondering if she can manage to fit it in again before August!!? She is clearly looking for a different answer from the one I am giving ... I am not sure what answer she wants though! Have paid for hair, makeup, dress, shoes, jewellery, and hotel rooms - I'm bu&&ered if I am buying fake hair as well!

hahahahahah, BM,s not worth the paper they are printed on, but look so nice in the photos.?