Upgrading from evening to day guests

I would be honoured to be moved up, as I get how difficult it is with numbers. Have you sent your evening invites already? If not them just send them a day one

If you have, I would call them and see we have been doing some moving around with our numbers and budget and we are delighted to be able to now invite you to the full ceremony and day. That's what we did and they were made up

View quoted message Thank you, good to hear someone else's experience. We have sent invites already to family and friends, including evening. Planning to invite colleagues to the evening at a later date. It would be family and/or friends we upgrade though.

Don't be afraid to say that you really did want them to be at the main event but because you were tight on numbers to begin with, you had to think carefully. Now that you have spaces you'd love them to be there. I did that and my friends were so made up about it.

View quoted message Great, thank you 😊

I was “upgraded” to my work friend’s wedding - we got super close quite quick and I felt so honoured to be able to go to the day! We totally understood how tight numbers were for her in the day, so we were delighted and we always joke that I finally made the cut 😂

View quoted message That's lovely that you have that joke between you 😊

We are having a small wedding with 60 guests. We weren’t planning on having evening guests at all but we have included a few. We did this as we didn’t want some of our guests to get Covid at the last minute and be left with empty chairs. The thinking is that in an emergency we can upgrade our evening guests!

View quoted message Sounds like a reasonable plan. Hope you have a lovely day

This happened to me at my friends wedding and I was so happy! I completely understood it was a budget decision anyways and was thrilled she picked me out of the 100 she could have picked!

View quoted message Aww glad to hear it.

Overall I think it's something that most people would be delighted by!

We did turn down an upgrade recently... we were only upgraded the evening before and the wedding was hours away. We could only get into our hotel room from 3pm but would have needed to be at the wedding at 12pm, so it just didn't make sense for us. If we'd had a bit more notice we would have probably tried to arrange something with the hotel so we could check in early or at least dump our bags and grab a room key.

Just sharing as something to think about, if you're prioritising who might make the cut to get an upgrade first maybe try to give out of towners more notice (i.e. spots that free up with early declines) as locals could probably come to the full day on less notice (i.e. last minute declines if someone's unwell etc.)

I would be fine with this. Just bear in mind that the closer you are to the day, the more likely it is that your evening guests will already have made other plans for the day so the sooner you let them know about the upgrade the better.