Usher predicament

Honestly, ushers can be relied on to do soooo much more than this. There's directions for photos, paying suppliers, checking people's drinks, sorting out cards and gifts. Not to mention just being in different places to greet people. I don't think three is too many at all.

I dont see why you cant have 3 ushers, they can all have different jobs: show guests to their seats, hand out OOS, hand out directions to venue, help to organise guests for the photos ?

How many people are you having at your wedding? Our priest suggested 4 for the size of our wedding. In total we are having 5. 2 of them will be driving wedding cars and the rest helping at the church.

failing that, I agree with the reading suggestion or maybe ask him to be a witness

Jobs for bride's brother:

Bridesman/man of honour/bridesmaid escort, witness, Master of Ceremonies, reading.

It would not be odd to have 3 ushers, one from Groom's family, one from Bride's family, one friend. Traditionally it should be one from each family, and the groom chooses his best man. But you can have any number you want.

Oh, I never thought of a reading. I could maybe do that, but he's quite a shy person so I don't know if he'd do it. I thought about getting him to drive the car and he said he would 'as long as he had one of those hats'. Honestly, you'd think he was 14, not 28!

Thanks for the advice, there's loads of good tips in there.

LilMissRed, we're having 60 at the ceremony.

Hi,

i think do whatever makes you both happy. I have two bridesmaids (my best friends) and my Fiance has a best man and 5 Ushers two of which are his brothers. Personally I think 5 is far to many but hey ho there are worse things in life for me to worry about

Gem x

Who is your OH's best man? If it's his brother, why not just have your brother and your OH's friend as ushers? Best man is likely to be with your OH on the day so it leaves the other two to hand out OOS and show people to their seats?

His Best Man is his best friend (a different friend to the usher). Him and his brother are more like chalk and cheese than 2 peas in a pod (for lack of a better phrase). He wanted someone who knew him well to be best man!

We have a best man and 3 ushers to match our MOH and 3 bridesmaids. One of my Uni friends is an usher and one of OH's Uni friends is a bridesmaid. You need to do whatever makes you and your OH happy, after all it is your wedding. If having your brother as an usher makes you happy and as an extra pleases the rest of your family then go for it. If you want to keep it how you had originally planned then ask your brother to do a reading. Good luck in whatever you choose to do! X

Does your OH want your brother to be his usher? I'm having my OHs sister as BM, but he's not having my brother as his usher as they are not close. Instead he will do a reading, as others have suggested. Don't have someone in the immediate party just because someone has suggested you should - it's your wedding and ultimately your OHs decision. For what it's worth though, I think three ushers is fine, but so is two!

Us too! I don't think numbers are an issue (as long as you don't have a tiny wedding) you should have who you want there.

It's nice to have someone from the bride's side as usher as he can spot the bride's family and show them to their seats, particularly if you are having reserved seating for aunties, grandmas etc and your groom's friend/brother might not recognise them.

We are only having a small wedding (abroad) and, even though I only have 2 bridesmaids, OH has his best man and 5 ushers and a master of ceremonies, who will essentially be doing the same duties. He has three brothers, his friend and my sister's husband as ushers, a friend as MC and his oldest friend as BM.

I don't see a problem with you having him as an additional usher.

Hi

I don't think 3 ushers is too many and you should do what ever you want on your day. If your OH is happy to have your brother as an usher and him being a bit shy it would be better for him then go for it. A wedding I went to in July had 7 ushers!!! Huge amount but they were all uni friends and they had all been ushers for one another so it was lovely. Plus it was all very well organsied as each usher had a specific role.

When we came to choose our wedding party, the OH and I sat down and talked about all the people who we wanted to share a special role in our day and we found ways to include them all. Therefore I asked if he wanted me to have his best friend from uni as my bridesmaid and he said he'd ask my brother to be an usher as he knew it meant a lot to me. So my brother is one of our 3 ushers and his best friend is doing a reading, she's since had a baby and would rather just do a reading so she can look after little un.

So to bring out a well worn Hitched saying but it's your day so do what makes you both happy. If people think it's weird, let them!! x

We're planning on having 3 ushers because I think we need 3 (large church + hopefully over 100 at the ceremony (we're inviting evening guests to the ceremony if they want to come). I think 3 is the standard number I've seen at a lot of weddings.

We're having 3 ushers, like you, we were worried about it but tbf there willl be a fair amount they can help with, and even if they're not they will be pleased to be involved. You could always ask him to doa reading though if you'd prefer?