ushers vs brideamaids

Nah its not important if you dont 'match', just stick with those who you trust and can handle it, quality over quantity :-)

Really wouldn't worry - certainly not worth having people just to make up numbers. My oh is having best man plus 4 ushers and I just have 2 bridesmaids.

Hi and welcome to Hitched and congrats on your engagement. All exciting times ahead.

You don't say how long it is until your wedding, but unless it's within a the next couple of weeks, not sure why having a baby next week will affect your friend being bridesmaid unless you are just looking to make up numbers. BMs and ushers/groomsmen should be chosen/asked because you have a special relationship with them. It doesn't matter really how the numbers work, within reason, and I don't think 2 BMs and 4 ushers/groomsmen would look odd at all.

Lol, I had a vision of them all in boxing gloves squaring up for a fight!!

No, they don't need to match unless you're planning an american style procession x

I like ushers, but I like bridesmaids.

There appears only one way to settle this.....

We're not having any ushers at all, I think it's a bit of a waste of money to be honest. My OH is having a best man and I'm having two bridesmaids, my Sister and SIL and my two brothers are giving me away.

We are having two bridesmaids, two best men and 3 ushers so no, ours aren't matched numbers wise.

The ushers really are to include my brother and OH's cousins as much as anything, I'm not expecting a huge amount from them except being charming and helpful!

Nope - we're having 1 bridesmaid, 2 best men and 2 ushers. The only time we really expect them to all be together is for a few photos. The ushers only jobs as far as I'm concerned is to show people to their seats before the ceremony and maybe do a bit of running about for us getting people we want in a few photos. the rest of the day they'll be 'normal' guests

I don't think it's a problem if the numbers don't match. My OH seems to add more ushers by the day. I keep telling him there will be no normal guests at this rate! We are not going super formal though so the ushers will just have matching ties, pocket squares and a buttonhole and in their own suits.

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I had a couple down the weekend and the bride was saying she is having 12 bridesmaids and keeps adding more.?

I thought exactly the same - thought it was some kind of evening entertainment you had planned!?

Ours arent matched either- we are having 2 bridesmaids, 2 bestmen, 2 ushers.

I was considering having a 3rd bridesmaid but instead asked my friend to do a reading- could you look to include your friend in another way?

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I was thinking exactly the same.........?

Numbers wise though, don't worry..

Peter

I once had a 12 bridesmaid wedding where they all left from a one bedroom flat.....How on earth did they manage to get ready and what the queue for the bathroom was like, heaven only knows!!!!!

Peter

Never thought of that? I think the most was 8 bridesmaids but it was in a stately home?. Just checked and there venue rooms are BIG? panic over?