Vaccinations

I'm in the same situation. Getting married in July and many of my family are refusing the vaccine including my Dad. I actually hope the venue does say no entry unless all guests are vaccinated because then my dad will have to get one! For you, if it is just your uncle and you aren't close to him anyway just don't invite him.

View quoted message Thanks for your reply. It’s so frustrating isn’t it? It’s already a stressful situation, this is our third wedding date, first cancelled by the venue as they unexpectedly closed and covid last year. Even though this is second time around for us we were still looking forward to it, we’ve waited a very long time for this due to other problems out of our control and the planning process has been spoilt. We haven’t done any of the things we should’ve at this stage, no hen/stag do, no rings, no suits, my dress is way too big etc etc and instead of excitement we’ve had endless stress. I really couldn’t care less if he doesn’t come to the wedding, he didn’t attend the first one cos he thought weddings were a waste of time but his two daughters are my bridesmaids and I don’t want to fall out with them as it’s taken a long time to re-establish a relationship with them because he’s such an arse. They’re adults now so we can see each other without his involvement. I didn’t intend to invite him but he asked if he could be invited. The annoying thing is he’ll cause all this aggro and I know he’ll probably not attend at the last minute without an explanation. Like you I’m hoping that there’ll be rules put in place that’ll take the decision out of my hands. We’ll just have to wait and see. It’s harder for you because it’s immediate family so I don’t envy you. I just don’t understand anyone not protecting themselves and others from such a terrible disease.

HI Jacqueline

Yup, we have older guests too! Many of our younger ones have very serious life-limiting conditions, including my nephew. IF our wedding can go ahead as planned in September, we are planning on putting in a little note with the invitations regarding vaccinations.

I am hoping that that way, with some carefully chosen wording, all our guests will understand that unless they have received their vaccination, regrettably, we will be unable to host them at the wedding to protect the most vulnerable family and friends.

There is no way I am willing to put any of our loved ones through even a risk of C-19.

I also suspect that our venue may also have some requirements to the same effect regarding vaccinations. You could always word it so that it seems to be a venue requirement - I am sure they would rather be over-cautious than cavalier, too!

Hope this helps!

Ali xx

Can I play devils advocate and ask what your plans will be for your younger healthier guests who may not have been vaccinated by July as their turn has not come round yet? Will they be taken off the guest list too? If your concern is that your uncle may infect someone, isn't that also true of your other unvaccinated guests?


(Please don't think I mean any of the above in a bad way, just offering a thought you may not have considered ?).

View quoted message Hi Daisy


Thanks for your reply. Yes we have thought of that but there’s two things. Firstly my Uncle expects to attend as he’s family. He’s around 74 so is in the vulnerable group. We’re an older couple in our late 50’s and the majority of our guests will be our age or older. Secondly any younger guests will be friends and they have the choice to attend or not. Most of our younger guests have accepted the invite and as there’s been no talk yet of vaccinating people under 50 they know the risk, which is why I think it’s important that all of the older generation are vaccinated. I’m hoping if the Government allows weddings to go ahead there will a stipulation that the over 50’s are vaccinated.

View quoted message Great that you've thought it all through! Really hope your day can go ahead as planned!

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We don’t have any younger guests with health issues. There a couple of older guests with issues but they’ll all have been vaccinated by then. I appreciate it’s different for you. I’d welcome a restriction on non vaccinated guests especially the older ones and it would take the problem out of our hands if the Government says for events to take place all over 50’s must be vaccinated. Ultimately this is endemic now so those adults invited have to make their own decision whether to attend or not. We’ve already sent out our invites and we’ve had most of them back so we will be contacting everyone to be sure they’re still attending and we can have the vaccination conversation then. Roll on the announcement!

View quoted message We’ve waited long enough! We met in 2006 and planned to get married in 2009 but unfortunately my fiancé’s dad died suddenly and he became a carer for his mum which nearly broke us. My dad died soon after and my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2013 so we’ve been through the mill. If this wedding goes ahead it’ll be 18 months since I’ve seen family and friends so it’ll be a massive celebration! It would be nice if it could go ahead stress free x

View quoted message Wow, sounds like you've been through a lot! Really do hope your day goes brilliantly x

Just widening this out and thinking - would this also extend to suppliers working at your wedding, photographer, video, florist and then what about the venue staff themselves or even the registrars or Vicar.

And then what about those suppliers providing proof to you, I cannot see a vaccination passport being introduced any time soon.

Could prove problematic for it to be a requirement for venues to only go ahead with weddings providing that all guests who have been offered a vaccine have had one. Remember this would also include the couple themselves.

So then you have all the couples who have already booked. If either of them have not been vaccinated then the wedding has to be cancelled and then who pays. Most of them would only loose their deposit but that could be 2 years worth of weddings cancelled for the venue which could possibly force it out of business.

And then what fines will be in place if a venue holds a wedding and someone attends who has not been vaccinated, fines now are £10,000 for events under lockdown. The venue would certainly not be wanting to run a risk of a fine and so the fine would be (via the venues wedding contract ) passed on to the wedding couple themselves.

View quoted message If I had all of the answers I wouldn’t be sitting on my couch in my dressing gown at 1.30 in the afternoon reading a wedding forum! I’d be on the podium rolling my eyes at Boris ? Who knows how it’s going to work, I just hope it goes ahead in July in the manner we’ve contracted and paid for.

View quoted message Thanks Daisy and yours too! Hopefully this year will be much better all round for everyone x

View quoted message I’m getting vaccinated through choice soon woo! But is it not your uncles fundamental choice not to be vaccinated? He perhaps (whether you think right or wrong) is happy to take the risk, even as a last hurrah? It is of course your choice whether you actually want him to attend the wedding at all but putting an enforcement that he has to have it seems unreasonable. There are many who cannot have the vaccine at all, can they not come either?