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Emma
Beginner April 2025 Derbyshire

Venues? 🤔

Emma, 19 March, 2023 at 07:44 Posted on Planning 0 8
Myself and my partner are totally undecided on what to do for our wedding day.
Do we go abroad and elope, or have a small wedding in the UK?
Some of the main reasons:Try and decrease the stress with planningFamily concerns on one side (don’t want the anxiety on the day of people falling out)Abroad- will we upset family and friends with not involving them- some who we have mentioned eloping have been disappointed.
I know it’s what’s best for us but I’m conflicted on spending the day with my partner, family and friends or just going away and spending the money on eloping and then an amazing honeymoon…

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Latest activity by Shona, 24 March, 2023 at 08:40
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    Rockstar April 2023 West London
    Sarah ·
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    Take a step back and instead of thinking, “home or abroad?”, both you and your partner imagine what the key parts of your perfect wedding would look like. Then together, go through your perfect wedding lists and sort each thing into non-negotiable, and desirable.

    So it might be for you that you both put “celebrating with our friends” on your dream wedding list, but then put it as a desirable rather than an essential. You might put “great nana by my side” as a non-negotiable.

    Once you’ve sorted these things, look at your essentials list. Does that look like something you have to do at home, or can you achieve your essentials abroad? If it’s still unclear because you could achieve your essentials in both places, then see how many of your desirables can be achieved with each wedding location.

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    Beginner July 2023 Northumberland
    Pippa-Rosy ·
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    Why not have an intimate elopement away to get married and then have a party later on your return with your friends and family? After all the whole thing is about you two and what you both want. It's also much cheaper to hire a venue for a party than a wedding and lots of the stress won't be added on!

    I had the same concerns with some family on both sides coming to our wedding and we've actually sat them down and addressed their potential 'bad behaviour' and said if we get a whiff of it on the day they'll be thrown out - it sounds a bit mad but it's our day and we want it to be perfect for us. I am also of the mind that on your anniversary each year, you want to remember all the good that happened on the day, rather than things like 'so and so ruined this' or 'remember when X ruined the speeches' etc. People like that have been struck off our invites just because we don't want to take the risk!

    Totally understand the sentimental value of having family present, but at the end of the day you two are the ones it involved and IF you two are paying for your own wedding then the people/guests getting upset really don't have any say either way and regardless of them being disappointed they should have your happiness and needs above their own. I've been so surprised by some people getting upset at our choices but I've even said to some of them, if they want to pay for the extra guests to come then that's what they have to do!

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    Beginner February 2024 Cambridgeshire
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    Planning a wedding can be a stressful experience, and it's understandable that you and your partner are feeling conflicted about what to do. Here are some things to consider that may help you make a decision:

    1. Prioritize what's most important to you. Is it more important to have a stress-free wedding day, or to celebrate with your family and friends? Do you value having a big wedding, or would you rather have a more intimate celebration? Understanding your priorities can help you make a decision that feels right for you and your partner.

    2. Think about your budget. Elopement can be a great option for couples who want to save money, but it's important to consider the costs associated with traveling and planning an elopement. On the other hand, a small wedding in the UK may be more affordable than a big wedding, but it still requires some planning and budgeting.

    3. Consider the feelings of your loved ones. It's important to take your family's concerns into consideration, but ultimately, this is your day and you should do what feels right for you. If you do decide to elope, you can still involve your family and friends by sharing photos and videos from your special day.

    4. Keep in mind that you can always celebrate later. If you do decide to elope, you can always have a celebration with your family and friends when you return. This can be a great way to include your loved ones in your special day, even if you didn't have a traditional wedding. RunYourPool Sign In

    Ultimately, the decision of whether to elope or have a small wedding in the UK is a personal one that only you and your partner can make. Take some time to discuss your options and consider your priorities, and trust that you will make the right decision for yourselves.

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    Savvy April 2024 West London
    Joanna ·
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    It's totally your day. What do you want? That's the day your remember. You won't be able to please everyone anyway.
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    Dedicated March 2024 Hertfordshire
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    People will be upset no matter what you do. So put yourself first and think if every single one of my guests was ok with it.. what would I do? And definitely go with that. Asking people to go abroad, you’ll knock down the guest list and always have a better time with nearest and dearest. Whatever makes you happy, even if that’s a small wedding with 5 people. Do whatever you want! Xx
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    Beginner February 2024 West Yorkshire
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    We’ve gone for a Vegas elopement, we don’t want a big wedding/the stress or the £££ (although lots of people have said they want to come we’re not expecting any) and then we’re going to have a low key party to celebrate with friends when we get home (local bar, friends on the decks and whack some money behind the bar) and maybe a quieter meal for our parents/close family. Some people have already expressed their disappointment but suits us perfectly. I did make a list as someone else suggested with various ideas and pros and cons for each just to help cement my decision!
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