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Curious July 2022 Derbyshire

Very small, intimate wedding

Kristy, 9 September 2021 at 11:37 Posted on Planning 0 14
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Hi all,

Myself and my partner had our wedding cancelled last year (COVID), it was pretty perfect for us - we have 2 children, have been together 16 years and we booked a very small wedding ceremony in Florida, on the beach, for us and our close family (with a fun family holiday / honeymoon all in one). Since then we haven't been able to find anything else that really matches that simplicity - and cost, we can't fly to the USA at the moment, we've tried looking at other countries but we're now coming towards the end of 2021 and we have nothing re-booked. Everywhere in UK seems to be around the 40/50 people mark with the ceremony, dinner, evening do, etc and we just don't want that.

Does anyone know of any little cottages / houses that hold intimate wedding ceremonies (18 people) in the Derbyshire area with a meal after? We are at a point where we just want to be married now, but still want it to be special.

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Latest activity by Mrsd2B, 12 September 2021 at 08:41
  • M
    Beginner November 2021 Cumbria
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    Hey, have you tried searching Google with 'just us weddings Derbyshire'? Our venue offers a Just Us package, the website states with 4 guests but when we visited the venue they said we can have more than the 4 so we are having a 'Just a few of us' wedding with 12 adults and 5 children. Hope this helps 馃檪
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  • Charlotte
    Rockstar April 2022 Wiltshire
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    So sorry you have had to postpone/cancel your wedding trip. If you cant find a small cottage venue could you maybe look at an AirB&B that has extras like pool, hot tub etc and then have a celebrant attend? You could do the legal bit separately the day before. You could then see about having a chef experience for your meal, where they come in and cook for you at the house, is a bit different and makes it special rather than a restaurant. good Luck, am sure whatever you do it will be perfect for you and your family X

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  • K
    Curious July 2022 Derbyshire
    Kristy
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    Thank you both, I will try Just Us Weddings and see what there is, and I鈥檒l also have a look at a property with a celebrant attending - I hadn鈥檛 thought about that idea, and a chef cooking.


    Thank you so much both of you these are really helpful. Xx
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  • Meg27
    Beginner September 2021 Derbyshire
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    Have a look at Norton Fields ( CV93QH) no minimum numbers, family run and only book one wedding per week so you get venue from Fri - Sun! Not like other venues with back to back weddings. You can decorate as your please and it鈥檚 absolutely stunning! We get married there on Saturday!
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  • K
    Curious July 2022 Derbyshire
    Kristy
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    Ah thank you, I will have a look at that! Hope your wedding on Saturday goes perfectly x
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  • R
    Expert July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135
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    I'd vote either for doing the legal bit separately and then having your own ceremony wherever you want, or for finding a nice reception venue nearby, which would really open up your options. We had a church wedding but couldn't find anywhere for a reception that didn't want a whole day for a minimum of 50 with evenign do etc, but we found a few lovely little country inns with a range of small rooms and none of them charged for room booking, they were just happy to have x number of guaranteed meals booked in for the day.

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  • Marie
    Savvy October 2021 Nottinghamshire
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    Might not be what you鈥檙e looking for but we decided to do things simple. I lost my dad last year so the idea of walking down the isle people watching was a big massive no for me. We are going to our local council house just us and the kids, to get married and then having a bit of a celebration a few days later with a party.
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  • K
    Curious July 2022 Derbyshire
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    Hi Marie,
    I鈥檓 sorry you lost your Dad last year. We have thought about doing that actually, but my mum and dad would be devastated if they missed it and I鈥檓 very close with them so we said we鈥檇 invite them, then we think about my partners parents, and brothers and sisters - they鈥檇 all be upset 鈥 we鈥檙e not doing cousins, etc.
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  • Marie
    Savvy October 2021 Nottinghamshire
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    Thank you. They were all upset but understand and we鈥檙e having a party for everyone a few days later. I hope what ever you decide you have a lovely time
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  • Marie
    Savvy October 2021 Nottinghamshire
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    The council house had a list of rooms for all sorts of numbers, we just had the one for 6. Don鈥檛 know if that helps you any
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  • K
    Curious July 2022 Derbyshire
    Kristy
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    Yes we know we will upset some people, but we don鈥檛 want anything big - like you said people should understand either way.
    Thank you for the advice - we do keep going back and forth on the council house option, sometimes think shall we just do it one day and don鈥檛 tell anyone, but that would upset people. Xx
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  • Marie
    Savvy October 2021 Nottinghamshire
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    Do what you want to, don鈥檛 get pressured into something you don鈥檛 want. We wasn鈥檛 even having a party to start, people were sulking! (My family) I did wait 4 months to say I鈥檇 decided to book a party! (Which then caused stress on several occasions but I鈥檓 now looking forward to it and my sister has been involved in planning) We鈥檝e got people turning up outside the council
    House after (they invited themselves) and going for drinks in town. (I wanted to go to a photo shoot 馃檮) then me and the oh will go for a meal and night away after.
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  • K
    Curious July 2022 Derbyshire
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    Oh bless you, that鈥檚 the problem isn鈥檛 it - you end up planning things you don鈥檛 want to do, or people inviting themselves. I understand from their point of view they want to see you on your special day, but they don鈥檛 think about you and what you want. It鈥檚 hard.
    Glad you鈥檙e looking forward to it now, people always say the day is perfect in the end whatever we plan! X
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  • R
    Beginner December 2021 Warwickshire
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    We are getting married at The Arden Hotel in Stratford-upon-Avon. They seem to specialise in intimate weddings and they were amazing at listening to what we wanted and also coming up with suggestions to make it even more special. I know it鈥檚 not exactly the area you want, but I鈥檇 really recommend them! Good luck x
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