Walking down the aisle

I am totally in favour of your little boy walking you. I ha e a similar issue. I want my daughters to walk me as it shows to me that they are blessing my marriage to their stepdad. To me that means much more than being given away by a father whose opinion or good wishes I care nothing about. I know that sounds harsh but I have my reasons.i am still not sure if I will ever be brave enough to mention it toanyone tho so I really admire you for even speaking about this out loud to people. I also do not like the idea of being given away either but thats just me. You want your aisle walk to be a moment spent with someone who will calm your nerves and make you feel wonderful.....I bet your son does that without even trying. Good luck with your decision. Xx

FWIW - I think a 2 1/2 year old is too young to give you away, but you could walk down the aisle with him if you didn't want to go alone. Just manage your expectations in how he might be at such an occasion. Young children are often overwhelmed and confused and want to do their own thing. Lots of people do go on their own if they have no one obvious to fit the bill.

I wont be having my father walk me down the aisle either as I haven't spoken to him in the last 13 years and he hasn't even acknowledged the birth of my son two years ago so wouldn't even want him to. ..but I digress! Im having my mum walk me down the aisle but that's because I have a close relationship with her and it's what I want. I love the idea of your son walking down the aisle with you. My son is two and three months and yes he could go shy and cling to my side if overwhelmed but usually he will just hold my hand and walk nxt to me. I think it would be lovely. Do whatever feels right and comfortable for u... its ure moment xx

As others have said, have who you want to walk with you. I think walking with your little boy is a lovely idea. Ignore what other people say, its your day...don't be pressured into having someone that you dont want. Talk it over with your OH & decide between you. If people don't like it, tough, its not their wedding. x

Aww I think that's a lovely idea. Go for it.

Im having registry office, and my mum is walking with me as unfortunately my dad died a few years ago :-(. But he will be with me in spirit and I have a charm for my bouquet with his photo in it. I was very close to my dad so his absence will be missed. x

Why don't you walk down with your H2B (and your son if you want to)? That is what I am doing (H2B that is, we don't have any children). We are eloping so no guests, I don't want to walk in alone so we are walking in together. For me that much better represents our informal, non traditional "do" anyway

I think it's a fab idea walking down the aisle with your son holding his hand.its yours and his daddies commitment to each other so to involve him I think it's a lovely idea. Don't think of it as him giving you away think of it as him being involved in the coming together of his family.

I think having your son walk down with you would be adorable. You don't need someone to 'give you away', especially if you already think it's a sexist tradition. I'm not having anyone. Ignore people who say it's silly, it's not their wedding!

I love the idea of your little boy giving you away, its so sweet! At the end if the day, other than ur h2b, he is the main man in ur life! Besides as your son, he will always be looking out for and protecting his mummy as he grows up... I think its very fitting!!

I am having the same problem of deciding who is to give me away. I am not close to my dad and although I was very close to my step dad until he got remarried ( my mum passed away 13 years ago) I don't see him as much and neither seem to be that interested in my wedding.

So I am thinking of having my son who is 11 to walk me down the aisle and my brother to do speeches. I think it is a lovely idea even though he is so young, but look it as he is walking with you to start your new journey together, rather than giving you away.

Remember this is your day.

Good Luck. x

I get on really well with my Dad and love him to bits, but I am 39, have two kids and have been with Mr Foo for 14 years - I think it's a bit late to be given away. ? And I don't like the tradition in any case.

Mr Foo and I are walking in together (possibly with the children too but our little 2yo is a madam so maybe not) - added advantage of this is we can get some couple pics done before the ceremony so won't have to take time out of the reception to do them. Do what you want, I think it would be super cute to walk down with your son.

I'd say go with what you comfortable with, I don't know my sad so he won't be walking me, and my mum had a stroke a few years ago and is now in a wheelchair so can't. So I'm thinking of asking my brother just so I ain't a lone. Sod other people it's your day.

I think having you little boy walk you down will be lovely.

I'm planning on walking myself down, well if I don't chicken out on the day! Ha!

I am in a similar situation. My dad will be there but he'll not be walking me down the aisle. I hardly see him.

I agree, too, with what many of you are saying about not liking the tradition, although there are a lot of sexist traditions surrounding a wedding.

I was going to walk on my own, but I think I'd rather walk with someone as it will make me feel less nervous. Also my mother and step-father are both paying for the wedding, so they are, in effect, helping financially to give me away. I just don't know who to choose. I would like my mother to do it, since she's been there all my life, but I think she wants me to ask my step-dad, which will be like sticking two fingers up to my dad really... not that he deserves anything better. I'll probably go for my mum though. Or could I have both of them??

I think walking down the aisle with your son is a lovely idea. He's more important than anyone else anyway.

I think you should do whatever you want to!

My Dad won't be at my wedding, so I asked my brother to give me away, however, he seems to have little interest in it all and doesn't seem too keen, so I might change that yet to my mum's friend's husband who has done a lot of the 'dad stuff' over the last ten years. We shall see!

If I had kids, I would definitely have them walk me down the aisle.

I like the idea of walking in with H2B cos at least then I know he'd be on time, however, he really wants that moment of watching me walk towards him.

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I agree with most of the posts here - do what you want to do, it is your day. My dad isn't coming (he didn't bring me up and rejected my invitation, saying there would be noone to feed his chickens if he came) and my mum is giving me away. She is delighted about this (she would've had that role even if my dad had bothered to show). It's nice to see that lots of people are doing things their own way - I hope that makes you feel better about your decision.

Sorry missed all these as have been busy with my toddler all day! I'd like to think if my son did have a moment and go running up towards daddy it would just break the ice with humor so if I then had to walk alone it wouldn't feel so daunting.

it just feels like ok letting everyone down. My step dads onto marriage certificate instead of my dad and my mum and family obviously expect me to pick her!

My Dad will be walking me down the aisle but i'll be holding my little boys hand as well.

Some might think it looks silly or won't expect it etc but I don't care as it's what I want.

I think it's a lovely idea walking down with your boy and if that's what you want then go for it.

I too am in this weird situation. I really don't want my dad to give me away, he split from my mum 2 years ago but we never really got on before that, hes gone in a strop because of this, but said as I don't want him too he wants my little one too, which I don't really want I want to go solo
Now thinking I may walk with our boy hard choices

I think it's awful that people are saying they hate the idea. I'm of the opinion that you should have someone at your side who means something to you, so why not your little boy? I think it's a lovely idea and a how many boys get to say they walked their mum down the aisle?

I think thats a lovely idea your little boy giving you away. my thirteen year old son will be giving me away xx

I think it's a lovely idea. I only have a daughter, so she is obviously going to be my bridesmaid, but to make her feel more involved she made and wrote all the invitations, as we have made her the 'host' of the wedding If I had a son, I think I'd choose to have him walk down the aisle with me too.