Walking down the aisle drama

Looking for some unbiased opinions please!


I’m not close to my real dad at all. He’s never been there for me emotionally or financially. Despite living 20 minutes away, I only see him around 3 times a year because we’re both busy and it’s always myself who makes the effort to go round. When I told him I got engaged, he was annoyed that my fiancé never asked for his blessing (this is because my dad hates marriage so there was no point asking). My dad wasn’t happy for me and didn’t congratulate me either. He doesn’t believe in marriage. When telling him I’d booked a venue, his lack of enthusiasm was extremely apparent and his girlfriend then ranted on how weddings are a “waste of time” and I’m doing it to “show off” amongst other things. This was at Easter and I left in tears. I’ve only seen him twice since. We had a heart to heart and he blamed our distant relationship on my mum and said she never let him see me which is why we aren’t close. He said if he’d raised me then I’d be different and share his views on stuff. The thing is, I judge him on how he treats me now and it’s not great. Every time I go round, he’s being negative all the time. “Why do I always go on holiday” or “why do I have dogs because they’re bad for the environment” (my dad hates dogs) we have so little in common it’s actually ridiculous. He’s never told me he loves me or he’s proud of me, and this cuts so deep. He has a negative opinion about everything I choose to do in life. In fact he’s never actually shown me love. He hates my family and they hate him because they all think he’s not good enough for me. The only reason I still visit him really is because he has my two sisters who adore me. I’m super close to my mum and my stepdad (my stepdad who has provided for me, and is also very happy for my wedding unlike my dad). I want my stepdad to walk me down the aisle but I’m terrified of the repercussions. I don’t even know if my real dad is attending, but I’m scared he or his drama loving girlfriend will see photos of my stepdad walking mw down and how this could cause a blow up. Right now it’s easiest I walk down the aisle alone - this will mean no drama. However, I’m scared this will hurt my stepdad as we have a wonderful relationship and it’s his only chance to do it. Please advise me? I just want a happy, drama-free wedding.