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Beginner September 2023 Lothian & Borders

Walking down the aisle song drama!

Joanna, 8 August, 2022 at 16:52 Posted on Planning 1 6
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I’m so hoping someone has the answer cause the anxiety is high on this one!


A couple my fiancé and I are friendly with are getting married 9 months before us but I’m having such a worry that she may have the same walking down the aisle song as me! 😭🙈 (there’s been nothing to make me think this other than it’s a semi popular song!)
I picked this song as it’s my mum’s and late fathers first dance song so it has significant meaning to me but I am getting myself so worried she has it as her aisle or first dance song! We share a lot of friends that will be at both weddings and I don’t want people to think we’ve copied them if it ends up they are using it!
Do I message her and say what my aisle song is and why I’ve picked it (& add in that it’s to be a surprise for my mum so can she keep the secret) and possibly risk her using it if she wasn’t already or do I stay quiet and pray to the high heavens she doesn’t?


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Latest activity by Anonbride, 9 August, 2022 at 14:40
  • Jane
    Dedicated June 2022 Bristol
    Jane ·
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    Firstly, chances of her having the same song are low but so what if she does… To be honest, I don’t think most people remember other peoples’ aisle music.
    That said, I totally get how you feel - I choose mine 10 months before our wedding and then we went to my husband’s friends’ wedding and they had the same song. I agonised for ages and decided to stick to my original plan (which was a different version at least). That couple and a few others were at both weddings and, if they did notice, they didn’t say a thing!
    If you want to ask her what’s she’s chosen to put your mind at rest, then go for it but I’d also say stick to your plans regardless - you have good reason to have that song and no one else’s wedding should change that!
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  • J
    Beginner September 2023 Lothian & Borders
    Joanna ·
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    This is what I’m hoping is they no one will remember! I know a few would and say something but I highly doubt it would be to us! It’s so difficult cause the song has such meaning to myself but my next fear is if she tells me what her song is and in the unlikely event it is the same song do I tell her there and then ours is the same and why I picked it?



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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
    Anonbride ·
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    I'd maybe tell a couple of trusted mutual friends who are at both weddings what you are thinking - I wouldn't go into the paranoia of why you're telling them, just casually "am having this as my song!" so that JUST IN CASE this other couple use the same song then there will be people on hand to hopefully field or at least confirm you didn't copy IF anyone kicks up a stink about.

    Hopefully it won't come to it though Smiley smile

    Remember that, if it's a popular song, chances are someone else you know might use it or hear it at some other wedding at some point, so I wouldn't fret about it too much - if it was a fairly obscure song I could get your worry about people thinking you've copied, but there are some classic wedding songs that will just get repeated at multiple weddings because they're classic and that's totally fine!

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  • J
    Beginner September 2023 Lothian & Borders
    Joanna ·
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    Problem I have is I’m worried those mutuals will tell people and then the surprise is gone 😭 I know I have seen a few on social media in general use it but never anyone I personally know! Keep your fingers crossed for me! X
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    A) It's unlikely that this other couple will choose the same song.

    B) If they do choose it, it's unlikely that anyone apart from them will remember it by the time your wedding comes round.

    C) If anyone is petty minded enough to make a fuss about you 'copying' someone else's wedding, then they're probably not the kind of people you should be having at your wedding in the first place.

    If it's really worrying you and your friend DOES have the same song, then just make some kind of comment along the lines of "how funny that we've both picked the same aisle song. It was my parents' first dance song so it's always been special to me." That flags up that you are not copying their choice and that you have a good reason for not amending it.

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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
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    I guess it comes down to what you're more worried about - people knowing your song ahead of time or people thinking you've copied if your friend happens to use the same one?

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