Wanting my nieces as flower girls

Please don't try to get your nieces to attend your wedding if you think their mother would be against it. This is not only likely to cause stress between the parents of the children, which could impact on the girls, but there is also a strong possibility that their mother will stop it happening last minute, which would be far more distressing for you than if you had accepted months earlier that they wouldn't be there.

I think that the best thing to do is to contact your sister and ask if she will agree to them coming. It sounds as if you both care about your mother, you just have different views on how to show it. Is there any way you can agree to differ on this topic and not discuss it any more? Then you might be able to patch up the relationship, at least enough for your nieces to be able to attend your wedding.

View quoted message Thank you for your reply. Unfortunately I was meant to see my nieces this week and have been amicable with my sister but she has blocked myself. She came along to my engagement party and had agreed to bring the nieces , as it was a family event and so I thought they’d have fun. Unfortunately my sister did not bring them and said they were ‘unwell’. It hurt a lot and now I am blocked and cannot see them. I worry that I will not see them until they are much older xxx thank you for your advice and I will try speak with her about it but I think maybe it won’t happen which is sad as I know my nieces would have had a lot of fun with all the other children going