Wedding Anxiety- Booking a venue

Part of what makes a venue perfect is the price. Are you sure this one is perfect if the thought of spending that amount of money is making you sick?

Weddings can cost an awful lot of money, but they don't have to. You don't have to elope to spend less either. Just because you can afford it, doesn't mean you have to spend it.

You say you don't THINK you want to elope so doesn't sound like you are certain on that. I would recommend not booking anything for now and to continue to discuss what you want your wedding to look like. Don't jump in with both feet when this decision is making you so anxious.

Why is the thought of the cost making you feel sick if you can afford it? Working that out might help you decide what to do.

Just because you can afford something doesn't mean you want to afford it or that you should. If you don't feel comfortable spending a lot of money on your wedding, then don't - you can have an amazing day without spending much money at all. Personally, I'd like to see weddings get less expensive, partly because it seems crazy to spend the equivalent of a house deposit on a one-day event, and partly because it then puts so much pressure on the couple to have everything 'perfect' (whatever that means!)

If you love your venue, you are happy with the price and you can afford it, then go for it. But don't feel pressured into paying out more money than you want.

YES It's normal!! Our wedding is our first BIG spend of our lives, we rent so have never bought a house, buying a second-hand car was a sickening experience for me! It took me a while to get the wedding head on for sure!

It's a lot of money to throw at one day, but do remember that wedding planning is a journey and the spending will be spread out over that journey and not all gone in one chunk. So maybe try sitting down to outline your budget and see it as investing in your engagement journey together.

Also maybe discuss with your partner what you envisage your day to look like and what matters most to you both? (other than the marriage part!) If you want the venue to be the statement piece of your day then it's worth it, especially if this means you don't need to spend as much on decorations. If there are more important elements to you like the food or having a certain band present, then you can adapt your wedding plan to focus on them instead. Or if having all your family together is more important, maybe eloping isn't for you?

It's cool money isn't an issue, but I'm also enjoying selling things on Ebay and Vinted. Making £5 here or there adds up. It's not going to pay for a wedding but little things will feel like a bonus!

I hope this helps x

P.s. I'm marrying a West Yorkshire man, you'll be reyt!