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Wedding date dilemma

Daria, 27 August, 2023 at 11:11 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 6
Hey all!


Looking for some advice here…
My partner and I have been discussing wedding plans but have not formally set a date yet. We have been looking into a venue for April next year but have not booked it yet. I am keen to have our wedding in early spring as I am conscious about my age and want to start trying for a baby as soon as we get married so I don’t want to delay our wedding beyond spring next year.
However, my partner’s sister recently got engaged and she has already set a date for her wedding in June next year and has now set a date for her bachelorette party (weekend away) in April, very close to the date we had in mind for our wedding.
I feel that we have been too slow with planning our wedding (due to our circumstances) and now it is limiting us with the dates we can choose.
What is your advice regarding our plans for our wedding? Would it be rude to have our wedding the weekend before or after her bachelorette party? This would of course affect my ability to attend her bachelorette party too.
Unfortunately the venue we’ve been looking at would not have availability until July otherwise (which May clash with some key guests’ availabilities) and alternatives are more expensive…
Any advice would be appreciated!

6 replies

Latest activity by Juli, 5 December, 2025 at 14:59
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    Rockstar July 2024 Cumbria
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    Hello! I wouldn’t say that it is rude, but I would have the conversation that’s when you were both thinking and would like to get it booked and go from there. No one else controls your wedding day. Just the 2 of you but with it being your fiancés sister you don’t have want family feuds on the run up to both of your days. I am not sure how old you are but I am in my 30s and before we both got engaged we tried for a baby for a few months and when we got engaged I asked if we could wait until we were married to try again. So that postpones us 2 years. So what I am saying is would a few extra months matter? But it’s your body you’re the only one to make that decision. Key guests? Who are these people? If it is parents and siblings I understand? Also grandparents but anybody other than that I wouldn’t score of the dates for. I hope you get it sorted and try not to stress.
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    You can book your wedding whenever you want to, but the reality is that picking one too close to a close family member's wedding can cause bad feeling, which you probably want to avoid. I would suggest having a conversation with your fiance's SIL and making your decision then - she may be quite happy with a wedding close to her hen do or wedding. Otherwise, July is only delaying by 4 months

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    Curious June 2025 Monmouthshire
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    Maybe there's some wiggle room with her bachelorette party dates, or perhaps you can all brainstorm together. If your original venue date really doesn’t work and you end up scouting around for other options, it might be helpful to look at some virtual venue tours, even something as simple as using some basic crazy cattle 3d models to get a better sense of alternative spaces, you might be surprised how that could help you make a final decision. At the end of the day, as long as you are talking together it will be alright. Good luck!

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    It really sounds like you’re in a tricky spot, trying to balance your ideal spring wedding timeline with your partner’s sister’s bachelorette plans. I don’t think it would be rude to set your wedding the weekend before or after—it happens often that family events are close together. What matters most is being upfront and letting everyone know early so they can plan ahead. Guests usually manage fine, especially if you make travel simple with options like this or even arranging something to visit nearby, so the schedule doesn’t feel overwhelming.

    Do you think securing your preferred date is worth missing the bachelorette, or are you hoping to still make both work?

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