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Beginner August 2027 Kent

Wedding dress shopping

El, 2 February, 2025 at 22:04 Posted on Off Topic Posts 1 6
Since the engagement, I found out my mum wanted to go dress shopping with me and my sister only. She even said in front of my fiancée “your mum has her own daughter she can go dress shopping with”, this was without asking me when I wanted to do. When I told her I wanted us 3, his mum and sister to go dress shopping she got really upset and said it’s fine but she won’t be going. Just to make her happy I gave in and said it’s fine it can just be us 3 but I wasn’t happy afterwards. It turns out she didn’t feel like his mum made any effort with her so I’ve been trying to get her on side by going to wedding fair, wedding venue etc together with his mum so they get to know each other better. Our families had also met several times before we got engaged. I thought that myself, mum and sister can go to the first bridal shop together so she gets her special moment with her daughters and then the next bridal shop we go to can be all of us but turns out I was wrong. There’s no one allowed until the dress is chosen and in my opinion there’s not any point in that. She’s not considering what I want and has been saying things like I’m hurting her, so I really don’t know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated

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Latest activity by Duncan, 12 March, 2025 at 20:33
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135 ·
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    I'm so sorry - it's horrible when parents start playing these emotional blackmail games.

    I know it's tough, but I think it's time you set some boundaries. If your mother is old enough to have a daughter who is getting married, then she is way too old to be behaving like a spoiled toddler!!! In your place, I would explain that, while it is really important to you that your mum and sister share this special time with you, you also need to include your fiancé's mum and sister, because it is important to you to build good relationships with his family. How your mother responds to that is entirely up to her. If she refuses to come to any more dress appointments, that is her decision, not yours.

    I know that's easier said than done, especially if it is really important to you that your mother is present when you find your dress. So I understand if you don't feel able to do this. BUT emotional blackmailers don't tend to stop - if you give in over the dress shopping, your mother is likely to pull the same trick throughout the wedding planning and also once you are married. For the sake of your marriage, you are going to need to take a stand at some point, so it might as well be now.

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    Curious July 2026 Kent
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    It's understandable that both your mother and your fiancée's mother want to feel included in the wedding planning process, especially Flyingtogether dress shopping. Acknowledge your mother's feelings and explain your desire to include your fiancée's family as well. Suggest a compromise, such as a small initial trip with your mother and sisters followed by a larger shopping trip with everyone. Focus on open communication and be willing to compromise to find a solution that works for all involved.

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    Curious January 2028 Lothian & Borders
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    It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, trying to keep the peace while also wanting to include everyone important to you. Your wedding, your dress—your choice. It’s understandable that your mum wants a special moment, but it shouldn’t come at the cost of excluding others who matter to you. Maybe a compromise, like a separate shopping trip with her first, could help? Stay true to what makes you happy!

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    Honestly, wedding dress shopping can be as exciting as playing at Pinco casinoaz — both give you that mix of thrill and nerves! Picking the perfect dress is like hitting the jackpot, right? You never know which one will give you that "wow" feeling until you try it on. And just like in a game, sometimes it takes a few tries before you find the one. Good luck to everyone still searching for their dream dress — may you find the one that makes you feel like a winner!

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