Wedding favours for female guests only?

I've never heard of wedding favours being just for female guests, we provided them for everyone

Personally never seen that.

only seen for all or none at all.

i'm frequently wrong though so unlikely any help! lol

I'm giving them to everyone - I've never heard of it being female guests only but it may be some old tradition I've never heard of! x

Never heard of that one! My mum just said why would you do that, never seen those! So I'm not sure there are any proper traditions surrounding it! I'd think it was horribly sexist/old fashioned if only the girls got them tbh

Alright, thanks! Do you think we could provide the same favours to everyone or do men need a more appropriate favour? We were planning on doing personalised love hearts.

Everyone at ours got heart shaped Scottish tablet - I'd just give em all the same personally. When I hear stuff like men getting whisky or cigars and women getting crap like measuring spoons or whatever it makes me angry, so I think not giving men heart shaped stuff would be just as bad. Plus it's faff you don't need.

Ours all got heart shaped chocolates.

I've never heard of that before. We gave everyone the same thing.

Ok, thanks, I prefer the idea of having the same for all guests as well, especially as we are getting them personalised - so everyone will get the same. I am not British so just wanted to make sure that it was no faux-pas for the men to get love hearts

I think the Love Hearts will be a hit with everyone - everyone loves sweets! We're probably not going to have favours (although I might change my mind later if the budget allows) but personalised Love Hearts will definitely be top of my list if we do. At my cousin's wedding the men got whisky miniatures and the women got heart-shaped soap...but I may have hoovered up a few abandoned whisky miniatures at the end of the night anyway!

I remember being at my cousins wedding about 30 years ago and only women got favours. But at the church all the men got button holes so everybody got something. I know that was the done thing then (in Scotland) but I think these days your either give them to everyone or no one. We're giving them to everyone!

I agree with ID, doing different favours for men and women is horribly sexist. I went to a wedding last year where the men got a whisky miniature and the women got a honey pot with wooden twiddly spoon thing. My honey pot went to the charity shop, I would've much preferred the whisky!

My grandmother wanted us to give an additional favour to the women only. She wanted my niece to go around and give all the ladies a chocolate. I refused because I won't give to one and not another. That may have been tradition in the past but I won't be doing it.

Miniature whiskey bottles is what my FMIL suggested for the men, but it seems a bit presumptuous that women will prefer candy and men will prefer alcohol. Glad you all seem to think the same.

I'd rather have the whisky!

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Haha well everyone is getting love hearts and that's that. If thhey don't want them I'll have them

Daisy bell - were having personaised love hearts for all our guests! And they're mich cheaper on eBay!

I haven't heard of that either.

We are giving all our adult guests a mini bottle and putting a drink in it most likey JD or something like that any way.

Debrett's etiquette guide says that traditionally five sugared almonds were given to women only. And I do recall going to weddings as a child and only the women getting sugared almonds so I can understand the older generation thinking this is the norm.

It's horribly outdated though and I agree that everyone should get the same. At our wedding everyone had Scottish tablet and it was all gone, no leftovers!

Friend of mine recently got married and venue wanted to charge £4 corkage per miniature !! Use that as an excuse with fmil I love the sweet hearts we are having choc love spoons same for everyone!

Your feeding everyone so I think the favours should just be a little token

This is exactly what I remember from childhood weddings. It was always five sugared almonds and it was always only for the ladies. Having said that, it is very old fashioned and these days couples tend to give something a bit different to all of their guests.

We're not having wedding favours as they tend to get left behing, but we are having a sweet table instead.