Wedding gift list

I think we'll plan to keep it simple and just say, as many of you are aware, we already live together, and have everything we could possibly need. So we would be extremely grateful if instead of gifts, kindly gift money, or gift cards instead.

My FH and I agree we don't want to send a gift list out with our invitations, but friends have warned me if you don't you can end up inundated with requests for what you want or gifts you don't want, so I'm making a small list that will be available if anyone does contact us and really wants to get us something. FH will ask for money if he gets the same question on his side, so we can put that towards something but we will make sure we track it so we can tell each person what we bought. Hope that helps.

We’ve been living together for over 5yrs, so we’re not after stuff either. Also as most people are having to travel to our wedding (it’s 1-2hrs away for most people), we’ve said that the gift of them coming is more than enough. Most are more than happy with this, and we’ve had more people wanting to stay the night etc.

For those that press we’re going to add the link to gift money to our honeymoon in the wedding website faq section. We can then track who’s gifted what and when we book excursions, we’ll thank them in that they’ve helped gift us do x and x excursion. The honeymoon itself is sorted, but there are a few excursions we’d love to do whilst we’re over there. I’ve not figured out the wording yet though, building the wedding website is on my to do for Jan 🙈

We put headings on our information card with our invites, and under Gifts we wrote "your presence is enough". Almost all of our guests got us a gift though and the majority was cash/cheques so we have been able to put aside a good amount for our honeymoon. We only booked our honeymoon after our wedding, which our guests knew about. Not sure if that made a difference to their gifts because they weren't just reimbursing us for something we have already bought but actually their gift has influenced what honeymoon we have.

View quoted message That sounds like a really good approach. I hope you have an amazing honeymoon and I'm sure people will be thrilled to hear what excursions they helped you go on etc

View quoted message Yeah that's interesting feedback. How lovely to know that your guests truly enabled the type of honeymoon you had!

Hi Hannah, we’re also getting married in May and as we’ve been together for 16 years have everything we need, but money towards the honeymoon would be a big help, so on the back of our invites this is what we included…

Hi there, I am getting married in July this year and have said on my invitations, as we live together we have everything we need, if you wish to gift a donation to our honeymoon it would be most appreciated. Everyone who has got back to me has been very nice and agreed to a money donation

Hi we decided to ask people to send money for our Kitchen renovation fund. We put:
Your presence at our wedding means more to us than any present. As we come together as husband and wife we have realised we have most of what a newly married couple would usually need. However the kitchen in our marital

We're avoiding Honeymoon funds because as guests we've found it incredibly awkward and stressful to know how much to gift as a cash amount - many of my friends have said the same so we know our guests would prefer to gift something.

Instead, we've built a registry but it's a small registry of stuff we genuinely need/would buy ourselves. A lot of it is upgrades to household items, and we've used The Wedding Shop where you can make expensive items "group gifts" so people can contribute money towards it rather than buying the full things individually - one of our friends did this and it enabled them to get a few high quality items rather than like a lot of chopping boards lol. In asking for stuff we would buy anyway, we're actually feeling like we are gaining honeymoon money as we're not spending it.

The other thing we're umming and erring about is adding a Honeymoon donation option - but only if we book our Honeymoon before the wedding. Places like Trailfinders allow you to set up a direct link so people contribute to the honeymoon you've already booked, which feels way more like you're genuinely contributing to the honeymoon rather than just putting cash in an account. If we do that we'd probably put them both up as options and make it clear we don't expect either and definitely not both, so it means people have the choice.