Wedding Guest List Problems!

If you are having therapy, it might be worth exploring these issues with your therapist, as they can help you work through your feelings and how any decisions you make will impact on that.

I know a lot of people would say to just cut yourself off from difficult family members, but it's not that easy for everyone. So you need to weigh up the peace of mind you'll feel from not having to deal with the drama against the sadness you will feel at not having contact with your immediate family.

If it all gets too much for you, you do have the option of cancelling your wedding completely and just eloping. Yes, you will lose some money on non-refundable deposits, but you'll still save overall by not having the wedding at all, plus you won't feel resentful or stressed by your family's behaviour leading up to and on the actual day. Against this, you have to weigh any disappointment you will feel at not having the wedding you wanted, plus the resentment you might feel at your family for causing the cancellation.

Alternatively, consider going ahead with the wedding but not including your mother and sister - but this is a major step, so you really do need to think through the long-term impact and how it is going to make you feel.

Just make sure that any decisions you make are based on how your family is, not how you wish it was!

What with your family's behaviour and the bereavements in your fiancé's family, you are both dealing with a lot - and that's before considering the impact of your pregnancy - preparing for a child is a huge life change, plus you are also dealing with all those pregnancy hormones buzzing around and playing havoc with your emotions. Be gentle with yourself. Take things one step at a time. Ask for help when you need it, whether that's from your GP, therapist or anyone else.

Hello,

It's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Your family's behavior is causing significant emotional turmoil, especially during such a special time in your life. Prioritize your mental health and set clear boundaries with your family. Open communication and understanding are key to resolving conflicts. Consider focusing on your relationship with your partner and exploring options like a smaller wedding if the family drama is too much. Seek support from friends, family, or a support group to cope with the emotional challenges. Remember, your happiness and well-being should be your top priority.

It sounds like a really tough situation maybe just focus on what will make you and your partner happiest for your big day, even if it means some difficult decisions with your family.

It's understandable that you want your wedding to be a joyful celebration of your love. Your feelings and desires should be a priority, especially during this time when you're also expecting your first child. It’s concerning that they’re dismissing your needs and making you feel guilty for considering your aunt, especially when you're already dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety. It’s crucial to set boundaries and communicate openly with your family about how their behavior affects your mental health. Seeking therapy is a positive step, and it may help you process your feelings and gain clarity. Consider discussing your feelings with your partner too; having their support can be invaluable. Ultimately, it’s your day, and you deserve to celebrate it surrounded by those who uplift you.