Hi all, first poster here!
I've been reading all your discussions here and have found it all super helpful when planning.
We're planning to get married in Germany in mid-July. We booked our venue last year when it looked like things will all be better in 2021, boy were we wrong...but whatever.
I'm originally from Germany and my groom is northern English.
We've been super excited to make our fairytale wedding on a castle come true and have been planning and discussing it all with our respective families who seemed just as exited.
Now we've sent out our save the dates and all but the groom's parents have said they will not travel to a "destination wedding" (note, this is my home country and set just outside my hometown, and not some random place in Greece/Spain/Italy that has nothing to do with us as a couple). AND we're now being pressured to have a separate celebration "up North" for the family reluctant to come (like one would have after eloping). My groom is devastated that only his parents might be coming (they've indicated recently they might not as well) and the rest of the family don't think this is important enough to travel for our big day.
I've looked into planning a low-key party for the English family up north, but more guests are being added to this event by the MoG as she also wants to celebrate their wedding anniversary milestone. We thought it would be 25 aunties and cousins and the list is now at 50 to 60 people and the plan of a casual party has evolved to a sit down meal with drinks and disco after, which starting to sound a lot like a wedding reception.
In addition to this all venues that can accommodate these numbers and plans are just as expensive as our wedding budget for our actual wedding in Germany, so I'm feeling really lost about it. I feel like I'm being pressured to have a second wedding, because my actual wedding in Germany is not good enough.
I understand that there are worries that travel to Germany in July might not be allowed (we live in the UK as well), but if we, as the wedding couple, can't travel, the wedding will just be postponed to next year, which is no problem to us.
Maybe I'm too stuck inside this, what are your views on this matter?
How do I console my groom who will likely be left alone in Germany at our wedding without any of his family?
Your thoughts on this are greatly appreciated xx