Wedding insomnia

Hey,

First of all congratulations.

I am exactly the same I keep thinking I am behind on planning when I am on target. I think for me personally, I start stressing more when I see how much other brides to be have planned or when vendors get back to me saying they are booked for my date which is 2025 but I have to remember there are so many vendors I will get one I like.

What I have found that de-stresses me is having a nice bath before bed with relaxing music on, once I get out of the bath and get ready for bed I write down a to do list but only limit it to 3 things this helps me stay organised but only seeing 3 things at a time makes me feel like I'm more on track instead of having a longer list of things.

I then put sleep sounds on and just lay there and next thing I've drifted off to sleep. Sometimes my mind is still going and it wakes me up but I have noticed since stating the only 3 things on my list technique I have been better.

I hope this helps and you get some sleep and rest.

Chyna

This is going to sound ridiculous but it’s been working for me.

When I’m trying to sleep and my brain starts thinking about wedding things, I follow the thoughts through for a little while, then train them round to thinking about the wedding music. All the music at our ceremony is going to be classical, so I start playing these beautiful violin pieces in my head and eventually it sends me off to sleep.

It’s five to 1 and I have work tomorrow! So my post here is just to sympathise lol

Thanks so much all! I tried listing just the 3 things I want to get done today before going to bed and that seemed to help a lot, it can all get so overwhelming sometimes!

Our brains can keep us awake when it's trying to remember things for the next day. Write down anything that keeps going round your head when you are trying to sleep and give your brain permission to forget about it and turn off.

I have two things, one the most in-depth Wedmin checklist on a spreadsheet, with task, category, due date, status and completion date all as different fields, then I just filter to look at 1 month at a times, but I can add new things, and occasionally check I have all of a categories tasks when my brain is going a bit insane. This relaxed my brain the instant I made it, it took me a couple of hours to get the 150+ tasks written out, but my brain instantly became lighter as it no longer had to store the information.
The second is meditation before bed. My work offer a free subscription to Headspace, and so I do a breathing exercise before bed every night. Took me a while to get used to it and not feel self-conscious, but I now fall asleep in like sub-5 mins, so it’s definitely something I do regularly.

We used to use relaxation and breath control techniques before falling asleep! But there are many other methods of instant falling asleep that are told here and here ! You need to take into account your psychological characteristics! Breath control helped!