Wedding insurance to cover unexpected pregnancy

Words fail me. There are people who simply cannot habe children and would rather a child over any wedding any time I know I would feel blessed to be carrying yes I might be a bit uncomfortable but really does it matter?

Hi September 2015 and Melliemoo

Nice to hear from you. I was the OP a few months ago - since then I am still not pregnant, but have booked the wedding for end of April 2015! We will take a break this month and maybe next month too and then continue. I didn't want to be massive as I just don't think I would enjoy the day. I have bought a beautiful dress that I will probably struggle to fit into if I am pregnant but may manage it if I am just 4 months or less gone. I am worried about the possibilities of having morning sickness etc. I was talking about having a break for 6 months but my h2b felt that life is too short to not try and do all the things we want as soon as we can!

It's a difficult decision to make but we have decided that if I did become pregnant and was really unwell we could always cancel the wedding. There is the possibility we may go for IVF after the wedding and will only get one free attempt, so losing money over the wedding wouldn't be the end of the world to us.

I am currently really enjoying wedding planning, and it is like a win win situation - if I am pregnant I may enjoy the day a little less and be mor tired, but I'll be pregnant! If I'm not then all the more prosecco and dancing for me. The one thing that is worrying me is the idea to becoming pregnant and miscarrying - so if it happened soon and then we cancelled the wedding and lost the pregnancy - or if it happened on the wedding itself - I can't think of many worse things to happen on your wedding day! But there is no point in worrying about that!

Good luck ladies with your plans and your ttc x

PS and good luck future Mrs P - I can understand that it feels more pressing with age not being on your side. All the best and I hope your baby comes along soon.

I can see both sides, and having had my children 20+ years ago, perhaps I am not best to comment, because it was very easy for me to conceive and I know I am lucky.

But, I have a friend, who was ttc in the run up to her wedding. She was 8 weeks when she miscarried.....2 days before her wedding. What should have been the fun run up, decorating the venue, having beauty appointments, spending girlie time with her mum and sister and girlfriends etc etc etc, was the time she spent in hospital, having to go through procedures. During this time they couldn't tell her whether she would be able to travel on her honeymoon etc. Her emotions were all over the place, and her body shot to pieces by the time she put her dress on, and needless to say, her wedding photos do not show the glowing happy bride as she should have been, but a very sad, tired, and emotional young lady looking a bit lost. Plus, she was still bleeding heavily on the day, worried about her dress getting stained, and knowing that her honeymoon would now be having a very different feel to it.

So, although I truly do fully appreciate body clocks, love for having a child, etc, having seen my friend go through this, I wouldn't wish that risk on anyone. Yes, I know that all pregnancies have that risk at any stage, but I can understand totally anyone who says to try and avoid being in those first 12 weeks or so.

I was on the pill for 17 years without a break, so thought the same thing....we thought we would try once before the wedding just to get started as it would take a while. I was 6 weeks pregnant on our wedding day! I was very happy to be a pregnant bride, though a little bit in shock that it had happened that quickly. But I did feel like **** all day, and could hardly eat anything. I wouldn't change it though.

MrsP me too, i'm 34 now and just found out we have male infertility issues and will need treatment. Hoping we still have a chance as this is very much wanted. Certainly don't plan to put anything on hold (thought that a few years ago and now really regret it - non wedding related), but i do understand why people might regardless of age or length of time trying. I'm hoping I am able to have mine (if at all) in plenty of time before my 2016 wedding so that breast feeding is out of the way and I'm back in shape.

Good luck to everyone trying x

I havent fallen pregnant in the 4 years we havent used contraception. We also plan to go to the fertility clinic immediately after the wedding (they're already aware of us as recently had tests and rejected fertility/hormones etc until after wedding) however if i did fall pregant beforehand, the wedding would go on regardless. NO i couldnt drink and yes I'd have a bump, but what a memory getting wed and with a baby so eagerly awaited in my tummy

If you get pregnant embrace it! Dont cancel your wedding!!!

It is a risk! Sorry to hear you had a difficult pregnancy catshoes- all worth it now I'm sure! A lot of people have told me around 4 ot 5 months would be the only time they would feel ok having a wedding. It is obviously best avoided. So you must have just passed your original wedding date by the looks of it - goodl luck for planning!

Im confused jjkcb, are you saying that if you don't get pregnant within a year you are infertile? Or is your post badly worded and that's not what you meant at all?

Nice new name btw

Yes... 12 months of trying without pregnancy is when you class as infertile and is the point you should be referred to the fertility clinic

there are 4 main types 'undiagnosed', 'diagnosed', 'secondary' and the infuriating 'unexplained' you will be undiagnosed up until you have tests and then become either diagnosed (where you can get help) or unexplained (which makes up the majority)... secondary just refers to someone who has had a child or been pregnant previously before becoming infertile

http://www.who.int/reproductivehealth/topics/infertility/definitions/en/

A year doesn't feel very long really to be classed as infertile, must be horrid being labeled as that after relatively speaking only 12 times lots to get upduffed.

Thanks for the clarification- I clearly have never been pregnant or tried for a baby!