Wedding jobs for 7 year old boys?

Ring bearer?

If he is an "confident" 7 year old, and could cope with it, could he do a reading?

If you really don't have a job for him then text them back and say "unfortunately there aren't many jobs for little boys, so he's all yours for the day!" but then again I think it's really rude to ask "can we/our children be IN your wedding?" and I am just that petty! (On the other hand if they've already mentioned it to him it would be harsh to take it away from him if he's excited about having a role... it's not his fault!)

We have a slightly older "son of friend who is also a bridesmaid" being ring bearer - he stands with the rest of the ushers then gives the box of rings to the registrar when nudged by the Best Man.

His response when we asked him was "I don't know what it means but it sounds really important" and he was happy to oblige.

We're already having our dalmatians as our ring bearers (attached to my bridesmaids who are both good with bouncy dogs!) so that one is out but the reading might be a very good idea! The trouble when family members start deciding their kids need a job is that someone is bound to get upset, especially if the kid already thinks they are doing something. Perhaps if we specify that he can do a reading, if he doesn't feel brave enough to do it then he might decline the role & save me a bit of extra hassle! Arggghhhh, families!

I think a reading is risky for a 7 year old - likely to dry up or cry or refuse to do it. But you know him best.

I agree with PP that is is very rude to ask if your children can have a part in your wedding - they should wait to be asked.

Could he give out OoSs? Trawl round witht he guest book? Be in charge of collecting cards and presents (ie guest give them to you, he runs off to put them on table or whatever)

Parking attendant in the car park? (Oh, is that mean of me??)

AmnesiaCustard, I love your style! I so wish I could get away with that one. I'm kind of hoping that if we suggest a reading the parents decide to decline the role for the very reasons you mentioned but OH will probably make me come up with another job for him if that happens. I did think about putting him in charge of the sweetie table but I would like the other guests to actually get chance to eat some!

I like this idea. Very easy to do and doesn't require any speaking. Also, if he decides he doesn't want to do it then you can easily shift the job onto someone else without any problems.

I think a reading would be too much.

Can he have responsibility of the rings? My 6 year old and 12 year old will be looking after the rings (one each) and then they will be looking after the children's table.

My sons are 6 and 4, and their jobs at the wedding is pretty much "be adorable". The older one is very keen to have a more serious job, so he's appointed himself "In Charge Of Telling People Where To Sit" and "Keeping Ethan (the younger one) Quiet". He feels very important.

Just an idea..... You could give him a camera and ask him to take photographs throughout the day ? (If you think he is old enough to do so?)

Or he could hand out the order of service/confetti cones? Not sure what else to suggest. I work with children and they love using the cameras ! They're pretty good at taking pictures too !

Hope that helps,

Kerri

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The camera is a fab idea! Doesn't really cost anything & I bet we'd get some fab shots that the photograper won't get. Might suggest that one ?

Aww good! I hope it all turns out okay for you.

Kerri

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Photos is a good one. When I was 8 my auntie had me as her 'official family photographer'. I remember feeling very important.

You're so much nicer than me!!! If someone texted (!) me to ask if they could force someone into my wedding I'd tell them where to go. A bl**dy text? Don't even have the decency to pop round or call you!

and then to add on another one, they're so rude! I'd be tempted to relegate them to evening only lol

Maybe it's because I don't like kids, aren't having any at the wedding, and generally think that our wedding isn't there for other people to show off or use for their own reasons.

Oooooh I've woken up in a bit of a grump today ?