Wedding nerves and anxiety - any advice ?

Hey,

I can totally relate, I'm on my 4th wedding date now too and while I don't have anxiety i'm getting so nervous/anxious my nails are taking a heavy biting and I'm finding it hard to sleep for all the wedding things suddenly going round in my head. After 2 years of planning and rescheduling due to covid the fact it's suddenly happening is so exciting but daunting all at the same time. I'm a bit of an organisation freak so I'm worrying about all the details I know I really shouldn't be worrying about.

I'm planning on sending a polite note out to guests on Thursday to basically go EEK it's one month today and re-iterate that it's going ahead etc, but also to politely ask people to do a lateral flow beforehand to help put mine/guests minds at ease. I'd really hope that people would respect that, I'd like to think we're related to/friends with sensible people.

Aside from that the only thing I can suggest is chatting to people closest to you. I love my bridemaids so much and I know they'll help ease any nerves and calm me down on the day.

In the mean time I'm using head space on a night time to try and chill me out so I can sleep.

Everything will be fine on the day ❤️
A couple of days before my wedding I put out a post on social media for all guests to see which asked people to test before, and information needed for the day etc. Everyone tested on the morning and no one complained or kicked up a fuss. I think they all have waited so long for this to happen and it’s a big celebration of everyone being ‘free’ again so they were all happy to do anything so they could attend.

The week before myself and my bridesmaids all went into isolation just to make sure we were safe. (Though my youngest daughter decided my wedding weekend was the perfect time to start teething so was a grumpy clingy baby the whole wedding 😂 and my oldest daughter somehow caught chicken pox which appeared the night before the wedding!!)
On the actual day my bridesmaids covered everything so I knew of nothing which wasn’t going to plan. I just sat back and got pampered. I was so nervous and worried about everything but as soon as I walked into the room and saw my groom, all those fears just vanished. Everything was perfect. To be fair the venue could of caught fire and I wouldn’t of noticed, I was so happy at being married finally and stood next to my groom that I didn’t notice anything else.
Honestly those nerves go as soon as you’ve said your vows. It’s such an amazing experience and your be more sad than nervous, sad that the day is going so fast and sad that you’ve done it and can’t do it again. Have breakfast in the morning. Take lots of photos. Don’t worry about anyone else apart from you and your partner. Enjoy it! ❤️❤️

I feel for you! I get very nervous too, and Covid certainly adds a whole extra layer of things to worry about. But in a weird way, once we'd got through our vows, it made things easier - I'd been so anxious one of us would develop Covid symptoms, or that the registrar would call a halt to the wedding (we were the first couple in our area to marry post lockdown, so the registrars were paranoid about risk and told us they had the right to cancel the wedding at any time, even during the vows, if they felt it was 'Covid insecure'!!!) So once we'd actually done our vows and I knew we were officially married, nothing else bothered me after that!

Coming up to the wedding, think about ways you can minimise risk (we cut contact with the outside world to the absolute minimum in the 10 days or so beforehand), and one you've done that, just try not to think about it. The only people I know who've had to miss a wedding due to catching Covid have been those who've attended social gatherings in the week or so beforehand. So if you're having hen/stag dos, make sure they are a good few weeks before the wedding date, and then stay out of pubs & restaurants etc until you're married!

On the day, use whatever helps keep you calm normally. For me, it was walking my dog and then listening to some classical music while I got ready. You might find CBT helpful, especially if anxiety is something you suffer from regularly.