Wedding planning while oh is away?

When my OH and I were planning our wedding we didn't want to have to spend our limited time together discussing it. So we each did some research on our own and emailed back and forth.

E.g. with wedding invites/orders of service, we each shortlisted half a dozen designs we liked and emailed the lists to each other. We found that the same design appeared on both our lists, so that was the stationery sorted! We did this with other things like photographer, venue etc and although we didn't come up with any matches on anything else, we were able to build a shortlist of 3-4 for each, based on what we both liked. In total, I think we spent 3 half-days visiting venues and talking to photographers (and then went on to do something non-weddingy with the rest of our day) and had a few brief in-person conversations. But most of it was done by email (another advantage of that was that we had all our quotes/ideas/contacts in writing!)

That way, we both felt like we had input into the wedding as we were planning it together - but at the same time, it meant we were able to do the majority of the work during times we couldn't be physically together.

Totally feel you—planning long-distance with a military partner is tough. Use your weekly Facetimes for small, focused wedding decisions instead of endless chats. Split tiny tasks: he picks the DJ genre, you shortlist venues. This way it feels collaborative without overwhelming your calls. You’re not alone in this!