What are your day/evening numbers? What's classed as a small/big wedding?

I don't think it's rude at all, and I don't think the guests will either. Personally, I think your numbers are about middle? My own is classed as small/intimate as we're only 25 throughout the whole day (no evening only guests)

I'd say you're numbers are average. I wouldn't say small.

I had 140 to the day and about an extra 30 to the evening.

We are having around 60-70 during the day and maybe 30-40 in the evening, I don't think it's rude at all to have 30-40 in the evening at all, our ceremony venue only holds 70 so we have a good excuse not to invite more to the day. I don't even think people will notice how many are invited to the evening so don't worry!

I'd say about average too, and I wouldn't call it small.

We're having 60 in the day and in the evening probably about 40.

We're not doing day/evening, just having everyone there all day. We've limited ourselves to 100, which is around average & similar to your numbers ?

I wouldn't say your numbers were small, (for me) small would definitely be less than 50.

I'm sure there will be no issues with the evening guests though- if they've only just arrived they wont know who's been there all day or who has just arrived so probably wont realise even how many evening guests there are

We have 65 for the day and an extra 22 for the evening.

We had 107 all day for everything, and it still felt really intimate, which is odd.

We didn't have anyone to the evening therefore, and everyone just started to party!

I would say a small wedding is under 50.

We're having 60 day guests and an extra 40 in the evening x

We are having a massive wedding 15 guests day and evening x

We are having the same group for the day and night and were originally having 120 but are trimming it to around 90-100. I've been to weddings of 40 up to 150 so I'd say you're around the middle. My brother and his wife to be have a preliminary list of over 200!! I don't envy them lol

We're having 70/80 all day - no extra in the evening I thought this was quite small as we have stripped our list down to the minimum for us if that makes sense

About 100 day and extra 20 evening - yours sounds pretty similar to most wedding I've been to.

We having about 25 in the day and 50 in the evening which i consider to be 'intimate'

We have around 40 for the day, and then an additional 15 in the evening.

We only want a small wedding, 30 guests for the day and an extra 20 for the evening.

I've got 98 in the day & will be inviting another 120 or so in the evening!

People should feel honoured to be invited to any part of your wedding so don't worry! x

I have 50ish during the day and another 40 something at night so I suppose a small wedding?

My average last year, for the evening, was about 100. I certainly would say that 30/40 in the day was a relatively low figure and people certainly won't think you're being mean/stingy for not inviting them during the day!

James

45 day and about another 15 evening guests. We wanted all along to keep things small, mainly from a cost point of view- as we're on a tight budget but didn't want a production-line hotel wedding (which often work out cheaper), we wanted to have more to spend per head and make the food and things nicer and have better favours / decs / cake, etc. which we've (hopefully!) been able to do.

We have been really tough though and stuck to close friends / family only. No-one who we haven't seen in the last 3 years is invited (including family!). Thus far, no-one has taken it personally. I've had a few comments about invites from work colleagues but I've been in my job for less than a year and- whilst we get on really well in the office- we don't socialise together much and it'd be a bit awkward I think. I'd feel like I have to 'behave'!! ?

A good tip on limiting numbers is to pick a venue which imposes a restriction. Our reg office takes a strict maximum of 45 people and the reception venue has max room for 50 for a sit down meal. This has got us out of a number of pickles; including not wanting children at the wedding...the reception is in a wine bar, so no children under 16 are allowed at the venue! So we can 'blame' them if people throw a paddy about not being able to bring Junior....(mmmwwaaahahahaha!) ?

We're having 58 in the day (plus us two is 60) and then inviting a further 60-70 in the evening making max number of 130 - but expecting less for evening invites as theyve all been given a plus one, but not all have plus ones..

I'd say ours was small for the ceremony, but not intimate. For 70/80 in the day, I'd say that was average but not small. Small maybe for evening numbers though..

I am suggling with this at the mo, i have about 100 for the day do and then another 100 for the evening, i am having a marquee at home, so the evening do is just going 2 be one big party ?

Just chasing the last stragglers on the RSVPS but think we will be 73-75 for the entire day. Everyone will be either close family or friends, no random cousins or friends of parents that we don't know.

I think this is probably about average for a day list but I guess generally more people would be in the evening (100-120?) but I'm pleased with our guest list. Last year a friend had a wedding with 40 guests and it was brilliant, everyone got to speak to everyone, including people they didn't know as it felt quite intimate and social.

We're having 75 in the day, and and extra 200!!! in the evening. All are family and regular/close friends. I guess this is classed as a big wedding? Should be one heck of a party!

We are classed as smallish wedding for day - 50 during the day then another 50-70 at night.

Quite simply we cant afford to have everyone there all day. I would rather get married when we are, having the day we want with close family and friends around us than inviting loads of people I hardly see etc just because they are a distant cousin!!

We're having 120 adults (+20kids) in the day, and 100 extra in the evening. I would say thats about normal for weddings I've been to.