What does getting married mean to you?

I am in the same boat! I want to postpone because our families and our close friends are extremely important to us. I don’t want to look back in 5 years time and feel robbed of not having those special people there with us. However, my parents and his say it’s the ‘marriage’ part that is the most important and we could do that with 10 people. Our church is also booked so they think it would be silly to not go ahead. I agree that you do not get married for the wedding ‘party’ but it is also a huge part of the ‘marriage’. The people you love and want there have already been selected for a reason and I don’t want to have to ‘limit’ who I believe and want there to support him and I when we get married.
Every time we try and talk about it everyone else brings their ‘emotions and opinions’ and it is making it difficult to ‘discuss’ properly x

For us, our faith meant that we couldn't live together before marriage, so it was a no-brainer for us !!! But I can understand if a couple is already living together, why they would want to delay for the big celebration!

Could you go ahead with the wedding and smaller family-only reception now and plan a bigger party next year, maybe for your first anniversary?

My fiancé and I have discussed this at length (our wedding is booked for March 2021) and the more we think and talk about it, the more we just want to go ahead and get married as planned with our immediate family (fingers crossed for a few more!).

While we planned a bigger day with a party, not having this would be the only reason for us to postpone and in hindsight, we wish we'd planned a smaller wedding anyway. But mostly, we aren't willing to put our life on hold for a year or more in the hope that we can have a dance floor and a party with a few more people (we don't know how long social distancing will be in force for). We have other plans and we don't want to feel in limbo!

Of course, we do feel robbed of our 'dream' day and I'm sad that we won't have everyone there with us on the day, but the more Covid ruins, the more we're determined to go ahead with what we can.

We'll be planning a bigger anniversary celebration/wedding part two with the rest of our planned guests when we're able to have the party we wanted and it gives us something to look forward to planning as wedding planning excitement has pretty much disappeared now!