What is the going rate for a gift of money for wedding present?

£40 - £50 for friends.

£100.00 for family.

This is normally what I would spend on a gift also.

For very close family I would normally give a gift also (whether they want one or not!)

I just got married and from friends we got between 20 and 30 pound, family between 50 and 125 pounds hope this helps x

I'm tight too!! ? lol

We were at a wedding of a friends from uni in May and gave a gift that was worth about £65. They loved the gift as it was something i knew they wanted. We'd probably have given them £100 if they hadn't asked for anything (to cover the cost of the meal, which was amazing!) We've got another friends wedding in October and they don't want anything, so we'll probably just give them £100 to cover our meal again.

People do seem to struggle with the concept of being asked what they want as a present for their wedding, and i think if you genuinely don't want anything, then you should say as much. Saying 'You don't have to if you don't want to', basically say's 'We'd really like presents from you, but are too shy to say so, but we won't say anything if you don't give us anything'

Maybe 'You don't have to, if you you don't want to' means just that? I think it is just polite.

'You don't have to feel obliged to purchase a gift or give money but if you would like to, it is impolite of me to turn it down' is what it basically says.

We haven't been to any all day weddings for ages (last one was my sister's last year, before that was abput 5 or 6 years ago) so not too sure how much is usual, we got married in april and had a very quiet daytime, then a bigger evening reception. As it was parents/sister (plus their husbands & kids) and best man (his wife and kids) our day guests gifts were different to the rest of the guests. So our evening guests were then one's we got money off - ranging from no money or gift, to a group of 6 work mates (with their partners & kids, who we'd invited) giving a joint collection of £30 (pissed me off a little as they had plenty of buffet & enjoyed themselves & only put in £5 each !! one came with her partner, 3 kids & one of the kids boyfriend), to an average of £15 - £50 depending on the person & their financial situation, the most we got was a cheque from one aunty for £100 and a family friend of my husband gave us a cheque for £250 !!

I guess there are no rights or wrongs and we appreciated every one who turned up and celebrated with us (regardless of what we received from them), as for what i'd give back in return - i'd probably say £20max for an evening reception and £30 - £50 for a full day. For us that is an average amount.

I did once hear someone say that they believed that you should give a gift to the monetary value of what it is believed to be costing the bride & groom (or whoever is paying for the wedding) to have you there as far as the catering goes. She said she would try to find out how much was being charged for the wedding breakfast per person, a few pound for drinks, then whatever the buffet would be costing, then times it by how many of you are going. Could end of costing people a few quid if everyone did that !! ?

I personally wouldnt give any less than £100 per couple as a monetary wedding present. I like to try & cover the cost of our meal plus some.