What to wear to a funeral?

I think the pin striped suit or the grey trousers would be fine. I dont think you have to wear a dress or skirt.

For H if you are looking to buy something, you could try Primark for a black suit that is only cheap. My H did this before for a funeral because he doesnt need suits normally and we didnt have the money to buy him one really (he's an electrician so would never need one for work etc). I think he got trousers, jacket, shirt, black tie for about £35.

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The last funeral we went to I wore one of my pinstriped work suits and H ended up buying a new black suit (from River Island) as the only suits he had were brown or very light grey and he wanted a black one.

WEES for you and H. For your three year old I would think that as long as he/she wears something smartish you don't need to worry too much about the colour. No one would expect you to put a young child in black I'm sure.

Do you really think I'll be ok in trousers? I'm really worried about looking under-dressed. I know that sounds silly for a funeral but everyone is so stylish. I'll never look stylish even dressed up but I'm worried that trousers will look like I've not even made the effort.

Do you think our son would be ok in smart jeans or should I get him some proper trousers? I've no idea where to get him proper trousers from though, I only ever see jeans, joggers or combats for his age.

I think if you are getting your son something new then dark coloured (navy?) combats would be fine. He is still only a very little boy, people don't expect him to be all "suited and booted". Actually (probably get flamed by someone here but ho hum) I can't stand to see small boys dressed up like little men in suits, ties or, even worse, bow ties. Dark combats and maybe an inexpensive shirt (peacocks/primark/Asda/Tesco) and he will look lovely.

I think trousers are absolutely fine. My mum wore black trousers to my dad's funeral and I'm sure there were other women there in trousers too. I always think as long as it's a dark-ish colour and fairly smart you should be fine.

Thanks everyone.

Matt's got a nice dark brown shirt so I'll put him that and smart shoes. I'll have a look for trousers but smart jeans sound like they'll be ok if not?

Trousers would be great for me because I've got some black boots that I could wear that I probably couldn't wear with a skirt. The visible bit (with trousers) is fairly plain but they are definitely more evening wear higher up.

Thanks K x

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I went to my Uncle's funeral on Tuesday with my brother. I wore a dark grey trouser suit with black wedge court shoes and a navy/silver top. My brother wore a black suit with white shirt and black tie.

I've never been to a funeral where trousers for ladies are not classed as 'acceptable'. I don't wear skirts at all so it has always been trousers for me.

I think both your trouser suit or grey trousers would be fine. I would suggest your H goes for a dark grey or black suit though - George at Asda have some really cheap ones at the moment.

As previous people have said, I don't think there's a dress code for children - as long as they're reasonably smart, I really don't think it matters.

I've just remembered that we've got some Next vouchers left from OH's birthday so might have a look in there for a suit for him

Sorry to hear about your loss too Mexicana ?

I wore dark grey trousers with a black shirt and a red suit jacket for my aunts funeral in april.... for my brothers this summer i wore a white dress with black patterns and the same red jacket.

tbh i always think that smart is the main criteria for a funeral rather than black.... for my brothers i almost wore the dark grey trousers with a bright red shirt as he loved red [pall bearers wore red socks and the ladies all wore red nail varnish] but i spotted this dress on a charity shop window and decided it was perfect.

I don't think anyone else has mentioned it but if you're looking at tradition it would be usual for your H to wear a black tie. I'm sure he'd be able to borrow one - most men acquire them at some time.

Thanks tumbleweed. I think he's got a black tie actually, just not a suit that goes with. Well, he does, but it's been several sausage rolls since he fitted into it ?