Whats the most important thing to you in regards to your wedding?

I'm not getting married until next year, but the most important thing to me is just that we're getting married!

After an awful divorce I never thought I'd ever be able to feel that I could trust someone enough to marry them again. Ick making I know but true ?!!

Other than getting married, I wanted our kids there. We have four between us: Mine - James 19 & Ryan 17. His - Chloe 9. Our daughter Libby aged 2 going on 13!

If your families can't get on, why don't you go off and do it on your own? I'd be (and am!) very tempted to do that.

Claire x

The single most important thing to me is that I actually get married to my lovely H2B ?

After that, my main wish was that we would be able to have as many of our friends and family as possible with us on the day, which is why we are getting married at 4pm, skipping the wedding breakfast and going straight into an evening reception as it's much much cheaper.

Also very high on my list was the particular photographer we wanted as she had done our friends' wedding previously and we love her work.

Obviously the most important thing is getting married but after that I would just say having a good time, realising that not everything is going to be perfect and no doubt some things wont turn out the way I expect them too but at the end of the day it will still be a great day and I just want to enjoy every minute of it!

Echoing what others have said, the most important thing about my wedding day is actually getting married to my OH ? I'd worry if it wasn't to be honest!

After that, whatever happens happens - we have our fair share of family feuds etc., but if people can't put that aside for one day then they don't need to come (harsh, but fair i think!). We were torn with the idea of just going away ourselves, but both liked the idea of sharing our day with our friends, so we're just going for it and hoping everything else will be ok!

I just want to have a nice day, surrounded by the people that i love, and with some nice pictures to remember it all by ?

I think do what you want to - don't let it be dictated by who likes who, who thinks you should do what etc. - you're only going to do this once in your life, so have the wedding that both of you will want to remember.

me too-and get married to OH, obviously

The most important thing about your wedding day is the fact that YOU are getting married! I was worried about offending people by not inviting them etc. but at the end of the day it is you and your OH's day so have who you want to have there and if you don't think they can hold their tongue for one day their probably not worth inviting in the first place!

This is the single most important thing to me that it will be a great day for us and everyone will enjoy it.

What an interesting thread.

As others have said, the most important thing to me is that I'm marrying the man who I love more than anything and that it's the start of the rest of our lives together. More than even the day itself, I can't wait to be Mrs B.

Also it will be so nice for our families to share this special day with us. I just can't wait to see all their faces there together.

God I sound like something out of Mills and Boon!

(Ali reaches for the sick bag!)

Out of interest and general nosiness, why can't all of your family come if H2B's family do? That doesn't seem fair to me.

Apart from actually getting married, the most important thing to us was having all our friends and family there and having a really good party for everyone to enjoy. Therefore, high on our list of priorities were good food, a good band and a free bar. We also had to find a venue large enought to fit everyone in. However, we were lucky to have quite a large budget, but even if it hadn't been, having everyone there was the most important thing and we would have done things like only having one meal, cheaper entertainment etc.

The most important thing to me is that I get married to my H2B and that all of our guests and us to have a wonderful day.

Sdaisy - The two families dont get on hence why shes keeping them apart.

whats important about being married? ummm being with him, never being alone, creating a new family...

whats going to be important about our wedding? having my dad there, seeing friends whom i havent seen for ages and seeing my family members who I havent seen for years.

Thanks teehee.

Sorry for being nosy leni. What a difficult situation to be in.

The last and first gathering when we got both families together ended in my sister being arrested for attacking my MIL2B. My MIL2B had been on the bouncy castle with my wrestlling mad nephew and she put her hand out to stop him from charging at her and caught his face with her ring.

My mum and dad are sepreated and do not get on and my sister doesn't talk to my mum and has stopped all contact between my mum and my nephews which I'm not too happy about but its her choice!

My mum threatend my MIL2B that if she touched her grandchildren again, that she'd see worse than my sister did

My sister owes us £300 but won't give it back until I leave OH and then I can use it to get myself back on my feet!

OH and I remainded neutral through all but I get allot of flack from my family for staying with him after the first get together!

So as you can see a very happy family! NOT - probably too much information but I've been told toget things off my chest as I bottle them in too much!

Goodness me Leni, what a lot of baggage!

Are you happy though that your OH wants his family at the wedding even if yours can't be ?(well the one's i'm assuming are close to you)

A sad situation, but your wedding day should be a happy day for both of you.

If I was in your situation, i'd invite close friends only (on the sly) and have a blast of a day!

I had family friction at my wedding, I hadn't wanted to invite my uncle (long story) but family pressure meant I gave in. He exeeded my expectation of his behaviour and headbutted a relative on the night (thankfully right at the end of the night and relative happened to be a door steward who dealt with issue!) Not what I wanted from my big day though, and, tbh, its tainted my memories of the day, knowing that the carry-on occured.

So, to re-cap, plan the perfect day that you both want and don't be swayed by relatives.