When the most annoying person is...the groom!

You're not alone, my H2B is acting the same way, I have no idea what to do about it though. Our wedding isn't until 2018 so I'm hoping by this time next year he'll be a bit more responsive.

My other half is non-committal about most things in life and so laid back he's horizontal ?

He has been given a couple of jobs but he's left the rest to me really (obviously we chose the venues and things together - I mean the small things like centrepieces and what not). I've given him the job of designing the table plan and the table identifiers and he's been helpful on the playlist too.

To be honest, when they say they're not bothered - they really aren't that bothered and would be happy with whatever choices you made.

If you're feeling like it's piling up on you though, then have a word and let him know.

Mine is the same. When we got engaged he said that I could do whatever I liked, and I thought yeah right, sure that he would want his say. But he really has been laid back and is happy as long as I am happy. It is very frustrating and I regularly find myself wishing he had more of an opinion, but he does mainly just go along with it.

My H2b shouted at me for talking about it too much...

Mine really wasn't bothered at all about anything apart from the venue. Now we are 16 weeks to go he is finally starting to show a SLIGHT hint of interest! I don't think that men can see past a certain point, they think it's ages away and that things don't need to be booked so far in advance (one of the comments mine made and we only booked one year in advance)

I think that the closer that you get then the more interest he will show. But might not be a good thing as he might want to interfere with your plans! ha ha xx

My husband was pretty useless helping out with teh planning until about 3 months before the wedding - so it's not just yours, don't worry. I just took it as leave to get on with it and I'm sure that if he is not happy with a decision he'd mention it! They're just not as bothered about the details, usually, and I know that he was basically letting me know he wants me to do what I want (despite saying he wanted to be involved)

On the day I had written up a list of the things that needed to do and made sure I talked to him about it and he did an amazing job organising his family to help us get it all done (a family full of last-minute-flappers!) - if that helps at all?

Mine was hopeless. We chose the venue together and met the reverend together, he said he wanted a chocolate tier in the cake, he came to look at cars, he chose his suits (with me), he chose the menu options as I'm fussy and we went to the registry to give notice. That is quite literally all the involvement he had - it sounds a lot but it really isn't.

I rab things past him, as a courtesy given it was our money, and he asked the odd question but agreed everything.

We got married NYE so the suit shop asked everyone to go in the week before Christmas to try on their suits (having been measured previously) and take them away. My Dad and brother went in together, but he and the other lads went on 23rd Decrmber which he only arranged/told them about on 22nd! I was going nutty.

Men just don't get hung up on stuff like we do, bring your Mum or a friend into the planning and just crack on.