Where to stay on the wedding night

We are staying at our venue along with family and friends , I’m really looking forward to seeing everyone the morning after for breakfast and carrying on the celebrations. I personally wouldn’t like to go and stay somewhere else.

Staying off site;
Pros: *no having to deal with any drama that arises *it’s just you two in a lovely hotel, kind of like starting a honeymoon
*you get the ‘going away celebration Cons: *potentially leaving your reception early as you may have to check into the hotel by a certain time (doors locked etc) *either having to take a suitcase to your wedding or have someone/yourself drop off suitcase at the other hotel before/during the wedding *missing out on the family and friends all having breakfast together. An extension of the party *having to worry and keep an eye on the time to leave for other hotel Staying onsite: Pros: *having a room to escape to if needed *no time limits, leave when you want etc *having all your stuff there ready for you *breakfast together with friends and family
Cons: *I can’t really think of any 🤣 My con to staying on site is my in-laws will be there too and spending the day with them is enough for me 🙊 but that’s because they’ve requested the room next to us!!! So weird

Why does your fiance want to have the 'leaving the reception' thing? Is it because he wants a set time to leave or to have that moment when the bride & groom walk out between an aisle of friends? If so, there is nothing to stop you doing that when you stay at the same venue - you can have the big moment walking out of the reception, walk round the hotel & back in another door to go to your room.

If it's more that he feels awkward about staying in the same place as other guests, then it's a bit more tricky. You could arrange to stay there without telling anyone and ask for a room service breakfast, but there's still the risk of bumping into other guests at some point.

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Thank you so much for your responses. It's interesting to hear your views but you have also given me some food for thought around the reasons he may want to leave the reception early.