Which wedding tradition would you gladly leave behind?

Well I am tossing a boquet (got to be done!), having a first dance (couldn't go without one!) and I'm wearing an off-white dress....

But we ditched the fruit cake!! Neither of us are massive fans of cake aside teaparty style cake but we are both lovers of the cheeseboard! So having a 'cheese' wedding cake instead

From that list, i'd choose to ditch the fruit cake because I think it tastes yucky!

I'd probably add garters to the list for myself. Over the years i've heard bride after bride mention that they are uncomfortable, or have seen issues with slipping or it showing through the dress. I'm saving myself the bother and not having one.

We're not doing any of those things. The only tradition we are having is that after a certain arbitrary point the day before we'll not see each other prior to the ceremony.

I will be having all of these except the bouquet toss - I don't want to damage my lovely flowers. I would add to this list 'the receiving line', it's the most boring, pointless part of the day IMO.

Me too! My trial boquet was lovely and I want to preserver it all day!! MIL2B is doing the flowers so she is making me a little posey to toss Maybe you should if you WANT to.

Agreed receiving line... YAWN!

The bouquet toss, not only do I not want to ruin my flowers but I'm so clumsy I'll either fall over or hit someone in the face!
Agree that the receiving line is also very boring...

As said above I wont be doing to bouquet toss as I dont want to ruin my flowers.

We are going slightly against the grain and having speeches before the wedding breakfast which means everyone can relax and enjoy th meal.

We didn't have a bouquet toss or a fruit cake (altho I do like fruit cake). We also didn't have a receiving line or a garter. Bouquet toss seemed totally pointless to me - not to mention that 95% of the women there were already married or engaged!

It's not something I ever wanted to do anyway (I don't really get it), so I don't feel like I'm missing out.

The first dance. We aren't having one, and people are getting their knickers in a knot about it. I don't mind a boogie with my friends but I hate proper dancing, and fortunately my fiance agrees.

All of the above. We're not having any of them!

For us, the less formality the better. Of course we need the legal bit but there's no best man, no bridesmaids, no first dance, no boquet toss, the cupcakes are flavoured sponge, my dress is purple, no speech, no table plan and the evening is a relaxed affair in the hotel bar.

Bliss and so stress-less!

I don't have an issue with any of the ones listed (although we didn't have a cake or a first dance). I would have tossed my bouquet if there had been any unmarried women at my wedding, as long as I could have it back afterward!

No fruit cake for us. We're having a naked cake, so no icing or marzipan in sight. My OH hates marzipan so it made sense for us.

We're not having bridesmaids either and I won't be tossing the bouquet, don't want to ruin it.

It's hard to vote as like many others, we aren't following tradition. Yes I have an ivory dress and we probably will have a first dance. We have flavoured sponge cake ( no marzipan,just buttercream icing) I have a button bouquet which I'm not throwing ( partly as it'd take someone's eye out, also I LOVE it, and everyone going is married pretty much)

we also aren't doing speeches, no best man or bridesmaids, we are spending the night together before, no ridiculous lists of must have photos, no garter, no receiving line ..... The list goes on!

No fruit cake because we don't like it, no bouquet toss because flowers are expensive and I'm not basically going to throw money around (also we only have two single women coming to the wedding), no garter and no receiving line. If I had my way we wouldn't be having speeches either but oh wants them and it is nice to thank guests for coming.

I would have loved a blush coloured wedding dress but there wasn't really much choice of coloured dresses when I was looking.

Fruit cake can't stand it!

I threw my bouquet but only because I was going on honeymoon straight after and the flowers were already suffering in the heat.

We're not having many traditions! No bouquet toss, no first dance, cake is 3 flavours of sponge, I'm not wearing white or ivory, we're spending the night before together... I imagine we will have some speeches but not sure if we'll do an official cake cutting either. I just want to chill and eat and drink and socialise not get sidetracked by tradition!

If I could vote twice it would be fruit cake and bouquet toss. But I chose the toss because I think we will probably end up with a fruit cake - although I'm not that fussed on it, OH is.

I quite like a lot of traditions, but I'm not interested in throwing my expensive flowers around!

We got married two weeks ago and skipped most traditions. No receiving line, no fruit cake (had chocolate), no bouquet toss or garter and speeches done before wedding breakfast. No send off either - I went to bed before my fiancé! Oh and no cheesy cake cutting pose! That was a definite no no. The wedding coordinator said that was a first in her 17 years experience but we were adamant as seems to silly. Not one guest questioned any of these and it was just how we wanted it.

But you got married first though? ?

I feel a bit like I'm pulling away from some traditions, I'm not sure why,perhaps being I'm being a bit stubborn but then again there are some I'm happy to do.Neither me nor HTB like fruit cake so itl be an iced sponge cake for us. I think a receiving line could be good as I'm not great at social gatherings as I'm quite introverted but I certainly want to make sure everyone's having a good time and that they know I appreciate them coming. So that could be an extra way to make sure we say thank you personally to each guest. I don't think I'll wear a garter, Throw the bouquet or have a veil. I think we'll not see each other on the day of the wedding,I won't mind but my OH is a bit more superstitious!

I don't think we're going to have a cake & i'm certainly not tossing my bouquet, oh & my dress is coloured!! Although we are having a first dance.

Im not so sure that bouquet tossing as a tradition is one anymore because in 28 years shooting around 1000 weddings I have only seen it done twice.

But I actually think it can be good fun and also when it is done - later on in the day the flowers are now way past their best anyway and have done their job, throwing them and being caught will not cause much damage to them (unless there is a scrum and a fight over them )so why not get some extra mileage out of them.

We didn't have fruitcake nor a garter. We had a first dance, white wedding dress and bouquet toss. My bouquet was really beautiful, and I would have loved to have kept it, but because of quarantine issues - I couldn't bring it back to Western Australia.

What's a receiving line?

I voted for the cake - it's way too dense and I'd always choose sponge! Will not be throwing my flowers (way too expensive for that!)

We aren't having a very traditional wedding, out of those 4 the only one that applies is the wedding dress although that will be ivory, not white, I think it still counts

Not doing fruitcake wedding cake as my OH hates it and I'm not a fan either, not doing the bouquet toss as it's such a small wedding (and also I would rather not ruin it), and not doing a first dance as there won't be any dancing.

I'm not having a fruit cake as no one likes it! And won't be tossing bouquet as don't want to ruin it! Plus most will be married anyway!

Doing all the other stuff though!

Actually my dress is ivory so only doing the first dance tradition lol!

I didn't wear a white dress, toss my bouquet or plan on having fruit cake (but there was a mix-up and I ended up with an extra cake tier which was fruit).

We had a first dance though.

It would have to be the bouquet toss.

I'm paying a pretty penny for them so I'm keeping those suckers.

Not keen on garters either.

Friut cake however is a different story. All i hear is the word cake so I'll eat it. ?

I'd scrap the whole table plan thing. Why should we tell everyone where to sit? Is it really that important? Majority of the guests are adults and can make up their own minds where they're going to sit, and the children have parents to tell them where to sit!

It's common sense not to sit at the top table, the rest should be fair game!

Fruit cake, for me. Foul stuff, chocolate all the way!!

nb. I'm not a huge fan of any tradition. We're being forced/gently coerced into a lot of them by our folks, but I'm really not fussed about a lot of things