"Who gives this woman ..." in a civil ceremony

No it's not mandatory. When you get your ceremony pack you should be able to select whether you are being escorted etc and whether you will be 'given away'.

I don't think so.

We were asked if my dad was giving me away by our registrar and she said she'd make sure she did the giving away bit as my dad was walking me down the aisle, if your dad is walking you down it might look a bit weird for him to walk you down and then just wander off but as far as I can see it's not a mandatory thing.

Thanks for that. I probably should have read through the pack before I posted lol. I am being escorted up the aisle but I guess I can just say no to the question about whether I'm being given away.

My dad walked me down the aisle and then sat down so whether that was weird or not I don't know but we were never asked about who was giving me away. I didn't think it was part of a civil ceremony but I'm Scotland so don't know if it's different here.

That's ok then. That's what we're hoping to do.

(Sent you an email about payment for that headband the other day Lynsey x)

I dont thinks its mandatory but when my OH meet with the registra she asked to speak to my dad and then asked him so i suppose it depends if the registra asks you before hand.. you can also ring and change things for your service even if youve sent your pack back

We were given 3 different vowels to choose from in our pack, one of them includes the 'who gives this woman' part.

I didn't remember to ask about this until me and my dad got to the end of the aisle - quietly the registrar just said to give my dad a kiss and then he sat down, so didn't have the "who gives this woman...". If I had asked for it then I'm sure they would have done it

HTH

There is more than one option....not forgetting that traditionally, at civil ceremonies the couple more often than not, walked in together. The introduction of it being a bit like a wedding structure is relatively new (last 25 years or so).

The choices of being given away or escorted are all catered for, although some counties registrars do work slightly differently at times.

Peter

Thanks everyone. Had a look at my pack and found the form (hadn't seen it before, oops). There is indeed a section that asks firstly whether I'll be escorted down the aisle and secondly if I'll be "given away" and if so, by whom.

We are having the below paragraph or similar:

Celebrant: It has long been a tradition in many parts of the world for the father of the bride to “hand over” his daughter to the bridegroom. However, greenbean’s father daddy greenbean is here today, not to relinquish any form of ‘ownership’, but to signify in public his affirmation of greenbean’s choice to spend her life with mr greenbean. daddy greenbean, are you happy for greenbean to be married to mr greenbean and are you content to wish them well on their journey through life?

hopefullly he says yes