why do weddings bring out the worse in people?

Tbh I wouldnt count these issues as 'the worst in ppl' as I think that ppl can be even harsher than you have experienced. But yeah, ppl can be very funny about weddings unfortunately.

I think they key is to keep reminding yourself what the wedding is about and trying to forgot all the other 'stuff' that others can bring. Best of luck

I hate it when ppl are harsh, even worse when they arquard.

is this the same story as on the other thread? An struggling to keep up with all the rubbish bm/wedding stress threads this afternoon!

I think this happens to everyone during the planning. don't worry.

We've had problems with invites too as we had to change to a smaller venue so people had to get chopped of the list. Are you having the ceremony at the same place as the reception, if not could your uncle stay outside and look after the children? It can be really difficult for people to get the children looked after for a whole day, and she probably feels very torn about the situation. As you said you are close with her, so she does want to come but the children are very important to her too.

I've also had on of the OH's family asking if she can bring her boyfriend (i didn't even know she had one) but in stead of asking me or OH she asked my future SIL, And some of the older ladies from work have said that they are coming to the ceremony even though they haven't been invited either. All the stresses of wedding planning.

In regards to your 'Friend' i wouldn't worry about inviting her, whay would you want to pay out extra for someone you hardly see?

good luck. xx

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? this must be April fools day or something, so many crap BMs today! Henceforth April 1st shall be known as bridesmaid sacking day.

I wondered this.

I'm confused. Not bothered, just confused.

Not really the worst having heard some horror stories in my time.

The "friend"

Sounds like you are not really bothered anyway, just forget about her.

The "Aunt"

Just don't invite her if you don't want her there.

The "plus one"

Be honest and tell her that there is no plus one.

Sort of.. I have 2 bridesmaids with 2 boys. They were both meant to be page boys and one kicked up a fuss in my lounge, shouting and saying he didn't want to be a page boy. Well that was fine as it meant we saved money on his suit ,thankyou gift etc and his Mum said he'd be at school, fine problem solved. Well now my BM wants to drop him in after the wedding so he's at the reception for the wedding breakfast, I was very reluctant to allow that as it meant my parents have to pay for someone to eat who wasn't at the ceremony but they OK'ed it so I reluctantly agreed. In my mass panic I went out an brought him a favour and text my BM just to ask if it was definite. Guess what? She's not sure now! We have 16 days to our RSVP cut-off date so I really need to know. If she doesn't let me know he will not be catered for and that is it.

In regards to your 3 guests, your first friend I wouldn't worry about. I was going to invite a friend to our wedding, haven't spoken to her since 2010 and she's never messaged me (including when 4 relatives died at the end of 2011) so I would just drop it. It was wrong of her to suggest she's some sort of fashion guru and you'd probably be better off without her involvement, anyway.

As for your aunt, you could help her find a childminder for the duration of the ceremony? Alternatively, you could find out about a local creche and offer to go halves on the kids staying there for the length of the ceremony, then they can come to the reception after. A phonecall or two won't hurt and your aunt might be touched you've tried to help. Your aunt is probably just as upset that you've invited some of her family and not her kids. If you've exhausted all the possibilities and she's still causing offence, tell her that the choice is hers entirely but you must know by X date and not to hassle you or your Mum unless it's constructive.

As for your friend who is bringing a +1, just don't put her +1's name on your final guest list. "Forget" it! If an invite doesn't state +1, you don't invite a +1!

I went to a wedding 2-3 years ago and a friend of ours and the bride's created a private Facebook event in which she invited a group of about 16 people and told us we "were all her +1's." I went ballistic! I told H2B we were invited anyway so her event was of little importance to us. I also got a call from said girl the day before saying that she was having a after-party at her house at 10pm (the reception ended at 12pm) so we could go back to her house and get drunk. Again I was livid. I refused to be any part of it I was invited to the wedding, and to the wedding I went. To top that off, said friend stayed the night and got so drunk she took what was supposed to be our lift home, leaving us stranded for an hour to fork out on a taxi!

Hope this helps

MrsStobe13 xx