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Beginner November 2014

Work colleagues other halves!

Wife In Training, 23 May, 2014 at 20:08 Posted on Planning 0 12

Hi there,

I'm planning to invite quite a few colleague from work to our evening reception but I'm wondering what to do about their other halves. All are married, engaged or have long term partners. One of my colleagues asked me about this and actually said "you're not planning on inviting my husband are you? You've never met him!". She thinks it will be much more fun for my work mates to leave their partners at home and treat it as a bit of a work night out. The only exception to this would be one couple (as I work with both) and one colleague and her husband as my OH and I both attended their wedding a couple of years ago.

Would you be offended if you were my colleague and your husband wasn't invited? I don't think I'd be offended but maybe that's just me!

Thanks in advance for any opinions : )

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Latest activity by LittleSnowflake, 23 May, 2014 at 22:16
  • Trish2014
    Beginner June 2014
    Trish2014 ·
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    I've invited partners, but have said as I've handed over the invite that of course it's their choice. I mostly invited them because they're all spread out geographically and I thought it might give them a driver for the night ? As it happens out of 5 people in my officer, three of them are bringing their partners and staying overnight anyway, and the other two are coming together and sharing a room for the night. I've also invited some girls that I worked with for a few years but who work from home - they're coming along in a group and leaving their other halves at home. I wasn't tight on numbers or budget for the evening do so was happy for them to come as a couple or as singles - whichever they thought they'd prefer.

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  • Melancholie
    Beginner December 2014
    Melancholie ·
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    I wouldn't if you haven't met them. Only two of my colleagues who are invited have partners but we've socialised as a couple with them as couples so they're all invited. If one of them had a partner I hadn't met, the partner wouldn't be invited.

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    cw2b ·
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    I've invited my colleagues to the day, there is only 4 of us in the team and it would just seem odd if they weren't there! I've invited their husbands too although I've never met them.

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  • MartinC Photography
    MartinC Photography ·
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    We invited partners to ours. I think it all depends on the sort of work environment you are in really. Some people I can imagine would prefer to bring their partners. Others would relish the opportunity to let their hair down.

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  • *RMD*
    Beginner April 2015
    *RMD* ·
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    Mine are evening only without partners because of numbers. They are fine with this and looking forward to a night out

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  • W
    Beginner November 2014
    Wife In Training ·
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    Oh no! What are you going to do?

    Thank you everyone for your responses so far!

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  • S
    Beginner August 2015
    SunnyBrownDiamonds138 ·
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    My rule is - if ive not met them they are not coming. I dont care what the 'done' thing is, at the end of the day it is your wedding. I dont want people I dont know, especially if your paying extrs for them like I would have to. Ive been to plenty of weddingd without my OH.

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    Beginner July 2014
    Aykay ·
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    I am not inviting partners. I was not planning to invite colleagues at all as I do not socialise with them but they are arranging a hen do for me,which I am pretty touched by,and I now think they should be invited. We are already over our budgeted number so we can only open it up to partners if others decline. I do feel mean tho as other evening guests have their partners invited.

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  • LittleSnowflake
    Beginner January 2016
    LittleSnowflake ·
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    I wouldn't be offended, I'd feel I could let my hair down more haha!
    I'm planning on inviting a few of my work colleagues and to be fair I doubt they'll want to bring their partners it'll be a girls night for them.

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