work colleagues - who to invite to evening do?

I'd be tempted to invite everyone for the evening - it will make life so much easier as it's a small school. We're inviting everyone from OH's work (even those he actively dislikes) as his life would not be worth living if he didn't!

I invited all my colleagues to either the day or the evening (depending on how much I like them!) and found that the ones I don't like didn't come. As predicted...

One of my work mates is coming for the whole day,the rest have been invited for the evening without partners. I did not feel i could leave a few out. I gave them all individual invitations with individual rsvp as i thought people would respond better which on the whole they have done.

I am having trouble deciding too

Originally when planning the wedding i said that we would have no evening guests and that everyone who is important enough to come is important enough to be there for the full day.

I have now realised that we might not be able to fit everyone in to the venue we have booked though!

I will wait and see how things pan out closer to the time

I work in the operating theatres! We are all in our little teams and I had the same problem.

The people I socialise with all the time (3 of them) I invited all day.

I contemplated putting up a poster but with a department of over 100 I would have been stuck if lots of people put their names down and some I dont like would have put their names down so I just did it via invite. There werent many I didnt invite from my team but those I didnt wouldnt have come anyway. I invited others from other teams that I get on well with.

There were a couple of people who moaned to other people who were invited to the evening do saying they hadnt had an invite. If they had have come to me I would have told them straught that I didnt socialise ever with them so why the hell would I invite them to my wedding. This mainly came from those who werent married and I think until they actually do ti they dont appreciate the cost of it all!!

Thank you for all the replies - i will ponder over what to do, i am too nice sometimes and dont want to upset people - but like SarB said it is the cost that i have to think about. Thank you ladies x

I have learnt the hard way being too nice just ends up screwing you over! Cue the long talk about my MOH telling me she wanted nothing more to do with me ever again a week before my hen night in June!!

Honestly its your day you have it your way share your special day with those that you love and care for and feck the rest!!

I got lots of grief because I didnt invite my cousins boyfriends and girlfriends. Well if I let one of them bring their OH I have to let the other emaning I would have had to have 6 more places and I wasnt doing it. None of them are engaged or living together so I thought what the hell no. Plus my cousins boyfriend is a right little scrote and I didnt want him bringing the classyness of my wedding down to chavtastic!!

It's not necessarily a case of being nice. If you have to work with someone every day (or have done for a while) there's a risk of them getting the hump and making your life hell. Sometimes it's worth compromising one day (even if it is your wedding day) to make the next few years (if you're staying somewhere that long) that bit easier.

We knew from when we started planning that we would need to hold a party for OH's work and include partners or his life would not have been worth living. The question was whether it was to be on the day or on our return from honeymoon, depending if we got married where we live, where OH went to uni or where our parents are (we had a choice of 4 separate locations and only decided based on venue options!).

As it turned out, the venue that made financial and practical sense that we liked a lot (there was one we fell in love with, but was impractical and over budget!) is sufficiently local that we knew we had to have a large afterparty on the day rather than a separate one, so we set a low budget per head for the evening (£6-8) and if we think we need more food, we'll up the numbers rather than up the choice. Also planning on having a cake of cheese as well as the wedding cake and edible favours to add to the evening food.