Would really like to hear other people's thoughts on this. I'm having between 50 to 60 people in the daytime, increasing to around 100 in the evening. Our venue is fairly small and we're having a civil ceremony in a barn.
I originally chose to have two adult bridesmaids, because our venue is quite small and there's not many guests, I thought more would seem too much, and it also helps keeps costs for dresses etc down. I will also be having two little 'flowergirls (although in practice they will just be wearing matching outfits) and there will also be a pageboy so I thought anymore than this would be a bit much.
This meant I didn't ask another of my friends, who I really would have liked as a BM. The other reason I didn't ask her is because she's part of a 'set' of friends, and although we're closer than the others, I wasn't sure how the others would take it either.
The other two choices I'm perfectly happy with and I know they'll be great BMs it's just the more I plan my day, the more I feel like I should have my other friend there with me two. She's been so supportive, and so pleased for us and she's already helping out with lots of stuff and she's really excited about the day and part of me wishes I'd asked her too.
To make her more of a part of it, we were going to ask her to do a reading for us (she's good at that sort of thing). But part of me still wonders if I should add her as a bridesmaid.
So my questions are - would you think it's strange to add another bridesmaid after already asking/talking about who you're going to have? (decided about 3 months ago) and would you think 3 bridesmaids is a lot for 60 guests?
Your thoughts would really be appreciated, not sure whether just to stick with the plan and ask her to do a reading/keep her involved in other ways
