Wrong photographer !

This is an easy one -- don't book em ! and that is coming from a wedding photographer. If they have been photographing weddings for more than 5 minutes then I am sure they will of come across this kind of thing before and they will not feel that you are being rude.

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BUT what is very frustrating is when a booking gets as far as yours after all the emails and phone calls and positive soundings that you just "disappear" - wont answer emails or messages left so I have no clue if you still want to book or not - did you receive my contract - are you needing a more time to payday to pay the deposit - do you actually think the wedding with me is booked when its not until I receive the deposit- meanwhile I am turning other couples away and am in limbo.

Just them you have changed your mind and everyone can move on.

Personally I’d tell them you aren’t ready to sign. You are continuing to look. If at a later date you decide you want that photographer ask if they are still free on your date.


That’s what we’ve done. I echo the photographer above. All of our wouldbe suppliers were happy about our transparency.

View quoted message I sent them a email just politely explaining that we’d like to have more of a think before we commit to anything and pay a deposit and don’t want to be stopping her taking other bookings while we decide on what we want and apologised and got a rude reply ? I suppose they have helped make our decision easier !

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I feel guilty now for encouraging you that it will be fine and they will understand. I bet she was "lovely" when you were booking. She sounds either a nasty person or only been shooting weddings for 5 minutes -either way you do not want her anywhere near your wedding, like I said before, it happens and is normal for many reasons, broke up, lost job - who knows. But if I received your email written like that then my reply to you would be along the lines of

"let me know if I can tweek the package to better suit your day, I am here for you if you need any other info, thanks for considering me, good luck with your wedding".

Sounds like your instincts were spot on with this one

What was her rude reply -- in a nut shell

View quoted message Don’t feel guilty!if it wasn’t for you I’d of probably stuck with her! I feel better now I have contacted the photographer we do want and she’s a lot more relaxed and friendly ! The one we have changed are mind on seemed too over the top and pushy where it makes you feel uncomfortable! All of this has happened within a couple of days so it isn’t like I’ve kept her hanging for weeks and i let her know we’re going to have a think before we book as soon as I had doubt .She wasn’t as such rude just very abrupt and I was hoping for a reply like yours along the lines of no problem just let me know etc instead I got ‘ oh alright . Ok. I was just about to edit your paper work too. ‘ she had sent a contract across so I felt awful but she got our details and address wrong and I highly doubt she was about to do it and the exact time I emailed ! I now need to email to say we don’t want to book her and I’m dreading her reply! I don’t know how to word it ?

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Hmmm - reluctant to advise any more, she does not sound normal . But If I received this from you

"we’d like to have more of a think before we commit to anything and pay a deposit and don’t want to be stopping her taking other bookings"

Then with the last part it would be clear to me that you will not be booking.

You have not signed anything or paid anything - nothing is booked, forget her and enjoy planning the rest of your wedding and treat is as experience so you can see the warning signs when booking other suppliers.

View quoted message You’ve saved me from booking someone that sounds a nightmare so advise away! I’m just going to email saying sorry we’ve had a change of heart blah blah , thank you for your time and any emails back aren’t getting a reply !

Just realised I replied to your wedding cake tier and top table posts --- it looks like I am stalking you -- sorry

View quoted message I don’t mind , I’ll take it as a compliment ??‍♀️?