WWYD-Honeymoon Clash

Does he want to go then just to spite them or is there a reason you'd want to go at that time?

ETA: Also, she's your friend. What do you want to do?

I think it'd be rude to not go just because he hasn't been invited for the day. As someone else said - it is your friend - would you want to miss her wedding. Also would it cause a rift if she finds out you booked your honeymoon after you knew her date?

My friend is getting married 3 weeks before me. We have very different budgets and discussed our guest list before our invites went out so we both knew where each other stood. She is getting married before me and told me the other week that she is going to be on honeymoon now when our wedding is. I'm a little disappointed that she wont be there as she is a good friend but she is going on a trip of a lifetime and I know she'll have an amazing time so I'm not too bothered!

If I was you I would give her a call and tell her that you may be away as this is more personal than just sending back a 'can not attend' then I'm sure she will understand.

As for your OH not being invited I don't think you should hold a grudge about that as you know what it's like to organise a guest list and they may have more family restrictions than you do.

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But you have friends there, right? It's not like you'll be on your own.

If the only time you can get for a honeymoon falls over her wedding date, then so be it. We made sure we were home from our honeymoon the day before a friend's wedding but you might not have such leeway (we had a three week window). If you're booking that time just to make a point, I don't think that's right.

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Nope, I wouldn't be offended at all of they didn't really know him.

I go to plenty of weddings without my husband.

I prefer to get invited together but would be in no way offended not to be. Especially if they were my friend and didnt really know OH. Sometimes it's nice just to go and chat with the girls anyway x

Not sure who this is too but the answer is no I wouldn't.

In reply to your OP, I dont think you should book the honeymoon over her wedding date just because your OH isnt invited- that smacks to me of being a bit petty and childish. If you can realistically only go on those particular dates then so be it however I would be prepared for how it may look to the bride and groom who have invited you.

Not in the slightest. On what grounds?

Nope wouldn't bother me in the slightest assuming I knew other people also invited, but even If I didn't know anyone I would just be worried about being a billy no mates rather than being peeved OH wasn't invited.....I actually like going out with OH from time to time.

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I wouldn't be offended- every wedding is different and if that's how they chose to do theirs, that's their call.

A friend of mine got married last year, and the invite was addressed just to me initally. I did actually contact her and clarify if OH was invited (I only asked as I didn't know anyone else who was going and so would have preferred to go with him) and initially she said no. I accepted her decision and still planned to attend. It just so happened later on, she changed her mind for whatver reason, and he was later invited, but had he not been, I would still have gone on my own.

With regards to the honeymoon, I don't think you should book it then just because your OH isn't invited. However, if you genuinely wouldn't have another time you can go away, then I guess you may not have a choice.

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Thats not irrelevant is it? You weren't going to go on honeymoon until you found out your OH wasn't invited.

OP, would you be going on honeymoon over that date if your OH was invited to the wedding?

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I would be very anxious about going to a wedding if I didn't know anyone apart from the bride/groom. If it was a really small wedding then I could understand that e.g. 40 people. my friend is going to a full day where she needs to travel, stay overnight and she knows no-one and when she met the friends of the bride at the hen do they ignored her! You'd think they'd be going out of their way to include her. However, if your friends are there too then I din't see any problem.

If budget is tight I would definitely think twice about going to a wedding (that was more than 1 hour drive away) without my husband. It generally costs more or less the same for one or two people to travel (few single rooms in hotels, mostly at least 3/4 of wedding cost and most cheaper options (other than small guest houses) price by the room not per person. Travel by car costs exactly the same for 2 of you - obviously train/plane are double. Local weddings easy and I wouldn't kick up a fuss at all - just the same as a night out - travelling half way across the country (assuming no friends going to the wedding from the same place) where it would take a decent chunk out of our recreational spend (aka holiday) budget for a weekend without hubby would require serious consideration.

I put my money where my mouth was on this one - we invited everyone who was in a relationship as at the RSVP date to bring a partner if they wished - we had the wedding where we lived then - basically the opposite side of the country from friends and family - and figured it would be rude to expect people to traipse the bredth of the UK without partners/children...

Indeed. OP, not sure that the replies you have received necessitate such an extreme response?

Late to the party and missed it...

Not sure I understand why the posts have all been removed, but I think I get the gist of it and to add my 2p... if I was invited to a wedding without Mr C, there would probably be a very good reason and I would still go.

I wouldn't book my honeymoon to spite them, if that was originally the plan then so be it but it wasn't.