4Months to plan a wedding!

I am so sorry to read about your situation, and how wonderful that you are able to do this to have your FIL involved. It is doable, it will be a stressful time, but my advice would be to keep it simple. the main thing is a venue, food and drink and you 2. Don't worry about the little things, just call round supplier to see what availability is and get booked. As it is later in the year I think you will find a lot of suppliers are available. I guess you will need to think about a cake, flowers, dress (try wed2be as you can take away there and then but may need alterations). Make a list, i used Excel sheet to write out all the thing you need then updated suppliers and cost as I went along, in honesty, I have everything booked in 3 weeks, so you can absolutely do this, just have your plan written down and be methodical. Wishing you all the luck

I'm so sorry you're in this situation.

Do not worry, it's absolutely doable! I planned my wedding in 3. And I'd actually give different advice: just get stuck in and do all the things! I absolutely loved planning each small detail of our wedding with my husband and the details are the fun bit.

Truthfully 4 months is more than enough, just tackle one project at a time.

I think the order we planned our in was about this:

-wedding license (must be done asap as town halls have backlogs)

-dress (mine was elaborate and custom made and 3 months was more than enough time for even that so don't worry. I'm not sure on what planet bridal shops think they can make you wait 6 months, there are so many options these days)

-ceremony venue and officiant / participants

-reception venue (kept changing until 5 days before the wedding due to evolving covid rules but we still pulled it off)

-choice of bridesmaid / best man

-guest list

-invites (DIY - you can design your own and print them off with any printing service, saves a lot of stress)

-husband's suit

-best man suit and bridesmaid dress

-place to stay night before/ after

-photographer

-florist (just for bouquet, we did the rest ourselves)

-hair and makeup

-ceremony: decision on order of service (may not apply if you have a civil ceremony) and choice of music / readings / wordings for vows

-choice of musicians for ceremony (was important to us to have quality music but many people go without) and ensured they had sheet music for pieces

-bought wedding rings with husband

-ordered custom aisle runner (etsy is your friend for everything wedding on a short time scale)

-ordered chair covers, sashes

-ordered flower girl dress (amazon, gorgeous)

-ordered my shoes, jewellery

-organised transport

-ordered clutches for bridesmaid and I

-shoes, tie for husband

-ordered reception items (we had a picnic theme so needed baskets, cutlery, glasses etc)

-ordered alcohol

-planned food to be bought /ordered

-chose cake style with husband and found person to make it

-designed orders of service and printed them

-planned reception decor and ordered items / made them

-went for hair trial

-ordered flower arch structure off ebay

-ordered floral foam off ebay and bought flower food

-ordered flower petals (etsy)

-sourced vases

-did seating plan

-found person to video record the ceremony / do a livestream

-bought favours and treats for guests (etsy, food shops)

Week before:

-died hair

-bought non perishable picnic items

-packed all wedding decor/organised items

-packed suitcase for honeymoon, gathered passports etc

1-2 days before:

-decorated ceremony venue

-bought flowers from supermarkets, made flower arch and arrangements

-bought perishable food

-had ceremony run through with officiant and witnesses

-booked honeymoon (last minute due to changing covid rules, worked out wonderful)

day of: relax and enjoy!

It's less stressful than it sounds. Have fun seeing it all come together, do one thin every day.

My tip: don't compromise just because it's a short timeframe, look for the best deal on everything and get your fiance involved as much as possible! If you want a flower arch, ask him to help you find the best deal. Get him to organise transport etc

Sorry to hear this x💗 like charlotte said concentrate on everythin you need like it was still next year get ringing all suppliers you need and see what they can do x its nice you are trying your best to get this done plus nov sometimes suppliers arent as busy as summer time good luck sending love and thining of you and Fil x💗