Am i wrong to be a bit upset?

I was a bridesmaid for my sister and my partner had to sit on a different table. We have been together 9yrs so not a new thing but my sister only wanted best man and bridesmaid on the top table. She did place him with people he knew (although not very well) and he was OK but still would have preferred to have been sat with me . Its tough but each Bride to their own I think. I certainly didn't argue it with my sister, it was her day, not mine and I didn't feel it was my place to question it.

Hope you get placed with some people you know! x

It's quite common to put only the wedding party on the top table and seat their partners elsewhere. I've been to some weddings where partners have also sat on the top table but they have usually had space for a large table and a small wedding party.

If both sets of parents are alive, you already have 6 people just with the couple and their parents. So by the time you've added in a few bridesmaids & groomsmen you're really running out of space to fit in partners as well.

I'm not very confident in social situations, but I've been to loads of weddings on my own and manage just fine. Hopefully the couple will make an effort to sit you with people you already know, but if not, you'll still be ok. At least at a wedding, there is always an easy topic of conversation - weddings!

Thank you all. We have never really been to any traditional weddings, so this is completely alien to me. Having looked into it seems like it's the norm, although I find it unbelievable. Celebrating marriage by splitting up your closest relatives from their own spouse just seems mental to me Especially when the other groomsmen and bridesmaids aren't on the top table, so ironically they get to sit with their friends and OHs..

I don't think my husband is particularly happy about being sat apart either, but as you say, it's not up to us.

I suppose we shall just have to get on with it, but it does feel like a real shame.

I think it's OK to feel however you feel, however it doesn't sound like a slight on you, just how they're seating it. I do understand the anxiety over being sat alone however. Someone suggested getting to know some of the hens. Did you bring this up to your hubby or BIL? Maybe just say casually about being nervous sat with people you don't know... They may not even be aware of your worry xx

It won't be for that long - normally by the dessert stage people are wandering round and catching up with friends, so it really will only be for an hour or two at most.

Owww that sucks. Yes I think it’s normal so I think you’re going to have to like it and lump it. I agree with you though we’re not doing a traditional dinner set up & making sure people are all with their partners and group. We are sitting bridesmaids and groomsmen altogether for the ceremony though - but it’s only 30 mins so hopefully the partners will be ok!

I dont thibk you are i hope you enjoy the day no matter what just remember when you have your reception put yourself first and not them sit them at the back good luck x👍

This is common so please don’t take it personally