Anyone else hating wedding planning?

I think it's helpful to remember that you will (hopefully!) only do this once so you don't want to compromise just to get something organised and ticked off a list. You are only a week in and it can be daunting when you are first starting and think there are 100's of decisions to make. If you feel your budget is making things worse then could you push your date back so you have more time to save? I suggest you enjoy being engaged, take your time and work through the problems together so you get the day you both want.

View quoted message We’ve been engaged 12 years and every time we try to get the money together to get married, something always happens, and the money needs to be spent elsewhere. We’ve both decided it is either now or never. The date is set, the deposit on the church is paid. I think I just feel a bit overwhelmed by it all.x

Just remember that all you HAVE to have to get married is the minister and two witnesses. Everything else is optional. So if something is causing you stress, think about whether you really need it.

Make a list (when I was wedding planning, Hitched had one ready made - do they still have it?) and tick things off bit by bit. And don't be afraid to simplify. We found one list that had about 220 things on it that we 'had' to do to plan our wedding - and I think we did about 40 of them!!!

We got engaged at the end of October and had our wedding totally sorted by February without putting more than a few hours a week into it. And we turned most of the wedding chores into a day or evening out. So we looked at a couple of potential wedding venues on our way to a nice walk, picked up our wedding rings when we were planning a meal out nearby, I went wedding dress shopping with a friend I hadn't seen in ages so got to catch up with her at the same time... It really doesn't have to take over your life. And it certainly shouldn't be interfering with your sleep. If it's causing you this much worry, just scale back. And you can totally have an amazing day for not much money at all.

View quoted message Thank you. I think I’m just over thinking everything and worrying about other people and their opinions. Maybe it’s time to take a step back and start over with a fresh perspective.x

I loved wedding planning and feel sad now it’s over (been married 8 days!)!
But my top tip is : use the Hitched checklist on this site where you can delete tasks that aren’t relevant, if you are not having wedding cars or a videographer for instance. This was really useful for me.
I would say I only spent a few hours on wedding planning each week. I had very helpful friends who were great with advice and my mum and sister were also very helpful. But as others have said if you are overwhelmed then take a step back for a few weeks. You have a year to go so plenty of time. Take your time and enjoy it, you have been waiting long enough!

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One of the things I found most helpful was the realisation that I was never going to please everyone whatever I did! So my OH and I just got on with planning the wedding that WE wanted. It made it so much easier than trying to keep multiple different people (many of whom wanted contradictory things) happy.

It is a stressful time but rememner to do what you both want and not for others and start a fresh an you x💗

I'm sort of enjoying planning the wedding but it's difficult when the OH isn't too interested and says, "It's in a year's time. Just chill! We don't need to do anything until after Christmas!" It's actually 11 months away from today exactly. I like organising and planning and prefer to get stuff done early so hopefully I won't need to stress nearer the time.

We're only having a smallish wedding of 50 guests and it's been a headache deciding who to invite. I've told some girlfriends that I'm not inviting all partners. Some are understanding but I'm not sure about the others.

Trying to keep within budget is tough as well. Hadn't realised that photographers, flowers and cakes would be so expensive. However, I have managed to negotiate a decent package with a photographer. Even thinking about doing a DIY for the flowers but it might be too stressful.

I'm hoping to get the bigger stuff out of the way and then relax a bit before dealing with the smaller stuff. I don't want the stress of planning and details to ruin the actual wedding itself.

View quoted message I think I’m going to sit down tonight and start over. The church is booked and deposit paid. So that’s the main thing.

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Hi Mermaid Princess,

Good plan of action. You still have a year to go so don't worry too much. You've got your Church booked which is the main thing. Use a wedding planner list in Hitched or another one which will help. Book the main suppliers you require and then take your time with the smaller things. It can be very overwhelming when you have to think of 101 things at one time. Good luck!

You have the plan in place main thing is you booked your church try not to let it get to you it will all work out where here to help if you need any x💗

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Michelle- what is this new pic??!!! Not a fan of spiders my love!

View quoted message Its my pet spikey he cute i got him for my little boy xx

My hubby to be has said he doesn’t care what I do as long as it’s not pink.

Not hating it but it has taken over my life and I have become a bit obsessed thinking about it literally everyday. Doesn’t help that everyone (friends, family, colleagues) ask me “how’s the wedding planning going?” every time I see them!


It got to a point a couple months ago when it was all I was thinking about, jumping between decor ideas, hair and make up, honeymoon, menus, table plans ect. so I decided I needed to pace myself (it’s not till July 23) and made my own schedule for the next 12 months to just focus on one thing at a time… so my task for June was to book the cake maker, this month is flowers and decorations, next month I’ll make the website, October will do menu tasting… and so on so it’s not too overwhelming all at once 😇

View quoted message I think I’m just so eager to get things organised because I just want to know the costs and sort the budget.

I haven’t hated it but like others definitely took over my life at one stage it was all I could think about. I’d go over the same websites and have everything decided but then realise I couldn’t buy those things for a while anyway.
Now that the kids are off school I’ve just completely switched off the wedding and looking at things and concentrated on my time with them and it’s done me a world of good!